Death of my father

Losing a parent
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Hi all,

Im new here. I dont really know what to expect or gain from this but i have to try something.

My father died a few weeks ago. Ive never lost someone so close before. My relationship with my father wasnt typical i guess. We didnt express emotion to each other through words. But actions. Like i knew he was proud of me and i beleive he knew i loved him by the way i treated him, took him out and through my children.
But he died unexpectedly and very quickly and was likely in pain and lonely. I feel so guilty for not being there and for not knowing the last time i hugged him, held his hand or told him i loved him.
I feel i robbed him of a chance to watch his gramdchildren grow. I should have seen the signs of cancer as a nurse myself but i dismissed them due to his multiple other health concerns, his reasonings and my mothers thoughts of whats going on.
If i had just stopped and looked properly maybe he would have been diagnosed earlier and not 3 weeks before his death.
How do i start to deal with these feelings?

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Hello @Beesforlife63 ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your father. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

Alex

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