Death of my newborn baby girl

I lost my daughter 7 months ago tomorrow. She was 4 days old. I don’t know how to deal with it

Hi Odlumdg,

Welcome to the Sue Ryder Online Community. I’m so sorry to hear that you lost your beautiful baby daughter so soon after she was born - that sounds devastating.

Have you heard of Sands? They are a really good organisation that supports anyone affected by the loss of a baby, with an online forum, local support groups, and a helpline (0207 436 5881).

I’m glad that you have found the Sue Ryder forum, as this is a safe space where you can get share your feelings with people who have been through bereavement of all types. We have some other users here who have lost a baby - you might be interested to read and reply to these posts:

https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/loss-my-daughter

https://support.sueryder.org/community/coping-death-loved-one/my-son-was-stillborn

If there is anything I can help with, or you have any questions about this site, just let me know.

Hi odlumdg,

I’m glad I found your post, but sad for the reason. I to lost my baby girl at after 6 days after being born in august 2017.

Dear Odlumdg, I am so very sorry for the loss of your daughter. I too lost a baby many years ago, my sister also lost her newborn twins many years ago and my daughter-in-law lost her baby last year. It is one of the most heartbreaking things any woman can go through. It is 45 years for me now and I still remember every single detail of that day. You don’t have to deal with it, you just have to live day to day, cry and scream until your whole body hurts, don’t bottle it up. A year after I lost our baby, I became pregnant again and had a gorgeous baby boy. My sister also became pregnant and had a son and my daughter-in-law is pregnant again, the baby is due in February. All of us have never forgotten the children we lost and we cry for the years we will never have with them. It is something that stays with you for the rest of your life because when they died they took our hearts with them. My sister and my husband have now also died so I sit many times remembering the heartache we went through all those years ago but now I don’t have my husband to put his arms around me and talk about the precious little baby we lost. This is something you will never forget and really you don’t want to forget because she was part of your lives for a time. I don’t talk about the baby I lost anymore because my husband was the only one left out of my family I had to talk to and now he has gone I just remember her in my mind and cry for her and my husband nearly every single day. I am so very sorry. Love Sheila xx