Hi My name is Deborah
Hi Deborah, welcome to the site, I hope you find comfort and support from the community, Jude xx
Hello Jude, I’ve recently lost my mum so grieving. Not sure how it works on here. Just looking for group support
I’m so sorry to hear that you have lost your Mum, it’s awful, nobody loves you like your Mum, and when she goes, it leaves a huge hole, which nobody can fill, you have to take a day at a time and eventually it will become easier, but everybody grieves differently so be kind to yourself, sending love Jude xx
Thanks for replying. I’m struggling with my emotions at the moment. Sometimes angry and then upset. Don’t know how to move forward, I’m lost
What you are feeling is absolutely normal, you have to take baby steps, have you got supportive family and friends ? Try and get outside in the fresh air every day, nature is a great healer, but mostly be kind to yourself, there is no time limit on grieving, it took me about 6 months before I realised I wasn’t crying every day, I’m not saying I was over it in six months, but I was starting to get to grips with my life, Jude xx
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How exactly did you move on. Did you go straight back to work?
I took 2 weeks off work then I went back, it wasn’t easy but it helped me to focus on other things and stopped me thinking about her when I was working, I did panic if I couldn’t get hold of my Dad as I was terrified that something would happen to him, I had a dog at the time and I used to walk her for miles with tears pouring down my face and I had this feeling that I had a heavy black cloud weighing down on top of me, but gradually that improved, I still miss her, that’s not going to change, you must do what’s right for you xx