I had been thinking about changing our car as I don’t need a SUV, I had been looking around for a smaller automatic without any luck but yesterday I found one in a local garage. The urge to go and see it was very strong and I felt it couldn’t wait, when they looked over my car I was shocked to be told it was unsafe to drive, it was only MOTd and serviced in June. I am not at all car orientated but I felt I was being pushed to do this, I am sure it was Ray telling me to do it to keep me safe. The decorator I had been dithering about and again I felt a push to get on with it is painting our lounge, hall stairs and landing. Am I loosing the plot? I hope not and it was Ray giving me a nudge.
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I think it’s lovely that you feel Ray is giving you a nudge to do things.
I also have had similar experiences, especially when buying a car since my husband died.
It gives me great comfort to think he’s still looking out for me, especially when I’m seriously out of my comfort zone .
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I dither a lot. I get these thoughts like he would say get on with it but don’t always. I go round in circles.
wish I wasn’t like this. I don’t get much done in the scheme of things.
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Well my car is very old but still goes.
I have to sort out another year and cross my fingers it still goes. I know it needs a new part from last year’s MOT. But it has done a very low mileage. I had it from new. It suits me. I was lucky not to be scammed when I asked for help.
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It’s so hard to make solo decisions , I too dither a lot, overthink my husband used to say. Often I miss out because I dithered so much, then I’m cross because I missed out!!!
I’m sure you’re achieving more than you realise @Enorac , maybe just not as quickly as before 
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Oh since I got older I have got worse dithering about. I think I am a victim of mood swings. Sometimes don’t dither and just go for it. Other times am the opposite.
Last year I remember I saw two lovely rugs in the market. I didn’t hesitate I just said I want them. Was very pleased. Same last year just bought new cutlery and a trolley which I used a few times. I got a steamer hoping it would help but was disappointed and can’t really get it to be very useful as I thought. I hoped it would clean the carpet.
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i am really struggling with decisions . my huband died in august after 7 weeks of pancreatic cancer . we were in the middle of an extension . it was his project and now i have to make all the decisions on it , im trying so hard to remember things he said
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That would be hard for me in your shoes if in middle of building work. Me I need it but cant face all the decisions and mess
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Sounds to me as if you are at the mercy of people who want to sell you a car and give you pennies for your old one. Red flags!
Have the vehicle checked out and see if it really is “unsafe”. I doubt it.
This is not the car for you. When there are roadblocks - go the other way.
We contracted for repairs and painting before my husband died. Those things will start soon, having been delayed due to circumstances. If it were only cosmetic I would postpone, but these repairs can’t wait.
I have 2 vehicles now. A small sporty one and a huge SUV. I am keeping them both. The little one is just for me, the big one is for me and my dog and passengers. My husband LOVED his SUV. So it stays.
I got rid of my husband’s car eventually because I couldn’t drive a manul car. Mine is automatic.
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It may come to that or even both cars. Just not something I need to think about at the moment and for that, I am grateful. They are paid for, 8 years old, low mileage and well-maintained. I’ve got time.
I promised my dog a walk in a new place tomorrow and a car ride too. We have nice fall weather now.