I am so, so sorry Katy. I can feel your pain and agony just reading your message. I burst into tears when I read it.
The sense of isolation is destroying what’s left of me. The world is continuing around me but mine stopped on the 7th of October.
It is so cruel for us to have to deal with this alone. I have absolutely nobody and I know others are in a similar situation.
I am in Lancashire where bereavement support is virtually non existent. Just when you need help the most at the worst possible time in your life there’s nothing.
I am trying to move forward in my life but the weight of this overwhelming grief is too much to bear.
Dave I’m so sorry I upset you. I lost my husband on 3rd Oct and my brother on 4th Sept. So we seem to be going through the same horrors at the same time. I’m in Yorkshire and agree with you, there are no groups or places to go for support around here. Thank you so much for your support. Here’s hoping tomorrow is a better day for all of us
Please don’t be sorry. It was very unfair of me to say I burst into tears. I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have done that.
It’s this nightmare of a situation we all find ourselves in and when I read that you are having the same thoughts when you go to sleep at night it just hit me at a level I wasn’t expecting.
I went to a support group on Wednesday evening but it wasn’t a bereavement support group. On the plus side I made some good friends and I will be going back so it’s a step forward and gets me out of the house.
I also met a friend yesterday who runs a community centre in Nelson. They are looking to expand the services they offer and I found out that one of the ladies who works there is a qualified therapist. She wants me to come and see her next week so there is a possibility we could start something there, even if it’s just informal drop-in sessions for a chat and a brew.
I’m hoping you are as okay as you can be and also that tomorrow will be a better day for everyone.
Your support group sounds great and it looks like you may even be able to start something for people like us in your area. Good luck with that. So glad that you’ve found something tangible that can help you get through this terrible time. Hope it all goes well !
Thanks Katy. There’s a lot to do and it will take a lot of work but I really hope we can get something in place and make a difference, however great or small, to others in this area who are going through this absolute horror.
I hope you have a peaceful night and that better days are ahead for all of us.
