Lost my husband 2 weeks ago to Acute Myeloid Leukaemia.
I was with him constantly but feel so alone now .Like a lot of you I’m struggling to make it through each hour .
He fought so hard for about 10 years .
Everything is now so different and sorting out all the paperwork is horrible .I’m really not sure I can cope with everything.
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I understand, im 5 months on and still haven’t sorted my pension, its on my to do list.Previously i was great at getting paperwork done but i simply have lost the motivation to plough on.
Someone said to me to do just what is essential then be kind to yourself and leave the rest for another day.
I had a surge of doing letters & now have grind to a halt again!
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I’m lucky to have people helping me with everything but I’m still finding it so overwhelming.
Thank you for your kindness
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It will continue to be overwhelming but it’s important that you know it’s ok to step back when it gets too much for you. Put it to one side and breathe.
None of that stuff is going anywhere sadly, so do what you can, when you can.
I tried doing it all in a couple of weeks then realised I was making myself sick. It’s impossible…
11 months now, and there’s still a couple of bits of ‘sadmin’ left to sort … it’s taken a while, but I don’t care, I did my own way.
Hugs x
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So sorry for your loss. Yes the paperwork alone is so hard. I struggled with it and nobody to help me. When I could I just tackled one or two things a day. It eventually got done apart from one still not done 10 weeks on. The loneliness is so very hard, the yearning to have him back so strong. Just take it hour by hour, I’m still really doing that.
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@AnnGal , Those first days are hard, but you will get through. As for the paperwork, best advice I had was take your time, give yourself time, the paperwork will get done, but if you need to leave it for a while do that, and give yourself the time you need. Hugs to you
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I think it’s abhorrent the way that bereaved people are rushed into things. If you’re liable to paying inheritance tax you have to start paying it back within 6 months, and under certain circumstances you can have to report the estate to hmrc before month 12. Abhorrent.
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