Devastating Loss


Thank you for allowing me to join and to everyone who reads my post.

The last 3 months of my life have seen me experience loss like I’ve never had before.

On 17 November I lost my beloved pet and companion of the last 14.5 years Lucy. Lucy was by my side through marriage, divorce and many challenging times in my life, she was my baby. Her passing was unexpected and came after such a very short illness.

On 18 December I received the most devastating news of all in that my mum had passed away suddenly at home; she was 74. Mum was diagnosed with congenital heart failure 15 years but in the end it wasn’t her heart that failed her :cry:

If what I had endured wasn’t already enough, on the day of mums funeral my Uncle was admitted to hospital and sadly passed away on 15 January, he was 64 years of age.

My place of work have been extremely kind, supportive and understanding and having just begun to return to work I then contracted Covid (as a result of my uncles funeral) and spent 10 days completely cut off from anyone in person.

On top of all this my best friend as Stage 4 lymphoma and we have just been told dad now has to go in for a lung biopsy next Friday… he was diagnosed and treated for penile cancer last year.

I don’t want to be around people, especially younger people enjoying life (half my work team fit in this category), my heart aches terribly constantly and I’ve now got chronic insomnia and have only on average had 2 hours sleep per night since 17 November.

There are days when I feel okay and then it hits me like a wave that I won’t see mum again!

I know there is no template for grief but even I’m surprised how hard this has hit me… I don’t know how much more I can take :broken_heart:


Hello @KC52,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your losses over the last three months that have brought you here. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

Here is some more information you may find helpful in this difficult time:

-This is an article on our website which may offer some help in dealing with the loss of your mum - Losing a parent - Coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder

-Macmillan Cancer Support, 0808 808 0000 are available to discuss your friend’s condition, and can help to support you and your friend.

-You can also talk to the lovely team at the Blue Cross Pet Bereavement Support service - 0800 096 6606 or about the loss of your beloved pet Lucy.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,

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Thank you Alex, I really appreciate that you have shared these resources with me.

I have no words that can console you because your post is heartbreaking.Just keep posting on here as this site has been a god’s send to me since my mum died seven weeks ago
Am thinking of you

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