I am struggling with the raw emotions that I never dealt with when my mum left me at 7. I am 58 now and having therapy but it is really hurting me to relive the night she left. My stomach feels strangled in knots and anxiety of when she left I am feeling it now and feel so flat how I managed to carry on life at 7 without her I will never fully understand and then she died 17 years ago so two lots of
Grief just
Wanted to share and speak to others
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Hello @Jane111,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your mum. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
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Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
I lived in a family environment where I didn’t exist,my birth mother emotionally and verbally abused me.She abused my my birth dad her husband as he died, he
Was
dieing of copd,she still really abusive. So to me it’s like she passed already, my heart goes out to you,as the one person who was suppose protect you …was not there to protect you,even though my birth mother was physically present, mentally in her head I did not exist.So I was treated like the lowest.
I’m so sorry for what you are going through.
That sounds awful my mum wanted to be with me but couldn’t live with my dad anymore they hated each other and never
Stopped arguing I actually deliberately crapped my head ope in corner of brick wall as couldn’t take it anymore and needed stitches but the one thing I did know is that they both loved me and cared for which is what kept me going So for you your loss of not having a mum really present even though she was physically must have been so hard on you how did you cope and how do you feel about it all today