I don’t really know how to put this post across, and I’m definitely not trying to offend anyone.
I used to think that women would cope more with losing a husband or a partner.better than a man. I would imagine a lot of men would have thought the same,.My reasoning being is that most women run the house and would sort of carry on with doing that, keeping themselves occupied
Having to do a washing now , and then hang the clothes up the right way is something most men would not have done. Theresa used to laugh at my attempts to hang the washing up and would come out behind me and sort it, simple things we take for granted.
But since I joined this site I can see that is not the case ,women take it every bit as bad as men losing a loved one. A love lost, is a love lost
Hello Alex, ive always wondered about that, i mean as far as chores, I guess we both had our own things we took care of around the house..I myself pretty much took care of everything, paying bills, cleaning, washing, cooking…even some of the yard work. My husband never did much around the house.. but he did take care of the cars, he was the one who would contact someone for any home repairs , and i did work, i stopped working when my husband got sick, but he was the provider, he always made more money than me. When he passed away. Well I no longer had income. But as far as the love we had for each other, I miss him terribly, and I know hed miss me if it had been me. I think he would have struggled more without me. But the pain, the heartbreak i say would be the same.
Hi, I lost my partner nine months ago after forty years together. My partner had a lot of garden power tools and it’s been a nightmare working out which batteries fit each item. Getting the batteries out of their chargers is so difficult. They definitely were not designed for women, especially arthritic 70 year olds. If you’ve never done much housework I expect it will be a steep learning curve. I’ve just about mastered the power tools now except a big hedge cutter which is just too heavy.
I think both men and women suffer deeply when they lose a partner, it all depends on the circumstances. From what I 've read men find it easier to take a new partner after a suitable mourning period. I know I will never do that, it would feel like a betrayal. Nobody could take the place of my partner but I wouldn’t begrudge someone else the chance of happiness again. Take care.
Hi @Norma1 , I was surprised you thought more men than women take a new Partner. So I googled it and found you are right. This info refers to getting married, but lets assume the statistics will be the same for partnerships. :. So here is the info off google : Remarriage after the death of a spouse is relatively uncommon compared to remarriage after divorce. Statistically, only about 5% of widows and 12% of bereaved men ever remarry. Men are significantly more likely to remarry, repartnering at roughly double to quadruple the rate of widowed women, though the decision ultimately comes down to personal choice.
Hi Alex, yes you are absolutely right women are no different than men coping with the loss of their husbands, well for me that is so true.
I lost my husband, my soulmate and best friend almost 2 years ago. Family and friends assume after one year going through birthday, anniversaries etc that the following year, year’s it will get easier well for me personally it hasn’t. My Bob was really poorly for over a year after his stroke then the second one took speech, he couldn’t write etc. In that respect he’s at peace now. I put on a brave face like others in our situation and carry on doing what needs to be done to survive. Inside I’m still heartbroken, miss his voice when he could speak, not being a couple doing things together. Him blowing me a kiss from the bedroom window while I was putting the washing out. I even have a plaque on the outside wall ‘I’m blowing you a kiss. Anyway sorry such a long response. It’s so good though we can help one another and know we’re not alone. Love to you all x
