Does anyone actually care anymore?

I’ve spent nearly all my life putting others before me.
Helping anyone in whatever way I could.
But where are those people when you need them? Nowhere that’s where!
I lost my Dad in October 2023, and I’m trying so hard to keep it together every day since.
I feel I can’t grieve properly because other members of my family won’t even talk about my Dad anymore.
It’s just hopeless

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Hello @Debster, I’m sorry you’re feeling so uncared for right now. The community is here for you. I’m just giving your thread a gentle bump :blue_heart:

I know exactly how you feel @Debster, and i’m so sorry for your loss.

My “family” hasnt said a single word to me since my mum died in november. I was and still am completely alone, the funeral plans, the burial…everything. I’ve had no support. I’m surprised they bothered to show up to the funeral, to be honest, as they couldnt be bothered to reply to my emails or voicemails.

Hi @debster i really understand how your feeling…i lost mam in november to dementia and bowel cancer im finding it so difficult still i haveca brother but hes very closed off emotionally & always has been its always me asking how he is sometimes he makes me feel silly when i tell him im not ok and missing mam because he doesn’t respond :cry: and i don’t like to burden my dad with my sadness as he’s going through so much pain himself.
Im taking each day as it comes and joining this forum means im not alone in my thoughts and your not either x

I have been pondering my loss of status in society since the loss of my parents. I am sort of dangling, aging, but not old, but moving down the path of life.
it is a harsh fact that we lose our once high social status after loss.

people are sympathetic but then they move on with their own lives. it happens.
loss doesn’t just mean grief but our lives change, emptying out often. losing people means we have less of our tribe around.

all meaning that the loss is more than just the loss of the person but the loss leaves our lives less, too.