Does anyone slip in and out of reality?

Losing a partner
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I lost my husband suddenly 18 months ago, and when I meet up with friends I seem to go into a some kind of ‘time warp’ and just slot back into being the person I was before!
Then at home reality hits, and I am back to being the person who has lost their husband.
What is going on?
Is this masking?

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My beloved husband only died on the 4th March and I find I’m putting on my ‘brave face’ to appease the well wishers whilst I feel broken and drained inside. I think we do it because we have to.

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HI i lost my husband just over 4 months ago and i find when i am with friends i find my self being the person i was before i lost my husband i think its because if i show how i really feel my friends would start to say things they used to say like move on and you will meet someone esle and i could not cope having to hear them saying it all over again and once i am home again i feel i can let my true feelings show

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@Katiemarylucy1
In the book Resilient Grieving the author (Lucy Hone) talks about distraction which gives a break from grieving and that it is a good thing and perfectly natural. Our brains need time for both so carry on and enjoy some time not grieving without feeling as if it is wrong.
Hugs
Karen xxx

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yes…so true…I would rather not meet up with anyone if I were to show the rawness of how you really feel inside. I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband so recently, and thank you so much for taking the time to reply to my post…this site really helped me alot , especially in the early days of loss…

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Hi Sue11…yes, there is alot of truth in what you are saying. Nobody can begin to understand how you feel inside, and so we wear a mask like a protective shield from all the ‘well meant’ things that are said which can hurt.
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband, and thank you for taking the time to reply to my post

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Hi KarenF
This is so strange. I have heard about this book and wrote down the title, and the name of the author only yesterday. I was starting to worry because there were situations whereby I was thinking that anyone who didn’t know me would not believe that I was grieving the loss of my husband. Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. I will definitely order this book.

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