Does it get better?

Terminal illness & end of life
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I don’t even know where to start but I’m here to ask if it gets easier? For context I’m 27

My grandma is 82 and has lived a happy long life and I’m so grateful of her. She raised me and is my only family, I’ve not dealt with death ever, and recently found out she has terminal lung cancer, she has refused chemo and signed a DNR. I can’t even explain how awful this is to hear but I have to respect her decision, she doesn’t want to know her prognosis. I live 200 miles away now and have managed to go up a few times since finding out. Every day I’m trying to put a front on and act happy and positive then I just crash every day like I feel guilty for being happy. Please can someone tell me if it does get easier, I feel awful I can’t help her like she’s helped me. Also has anyone experienced similar and have time frames? I don’t even know how to prepare

Sorry for the rant thank you

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Hello Amy, im so sorry to hear about your grandmother,..one good thing about what is going on with your grandmother is that she is obviously prepared, not wanting any intervention, ..i know its hard on you, as she is your only family..is there any way you can move closer to her,? She will need you. ..and i know you’ll want to be close to her. If anything happens..I know this is weighing heavily on you. A lot of us here have dealt with our loved ones who are terminal. :pensive_face:..please take care of yourself. And may God bless you :folded_hands:

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Hi Amy,

My advice for what it’s worth is to go to her if you can and if she needs you. Only you know if you can and if you should. Some people may advise against it. Trust yourself.

You will know in your heart and mind what to do. It sounds as though you already know.

best wishes.

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