I’ve been mulling this thought over for a while now. Both my husband and myself were raised within Catholic families but neither was particularly religious or spiritual. Over the last 16 months since his death I have thought of him being ‘on the other side’ watching, listening and caring for me. However, I’ve started to think that this may be hindering me in some way as it’s putting a hope of afterlife in order to meet him again. What if death really is the end? Dead. Gone. That was it. I’m not really given to big existential thoughts but this is playing in my mind. It may well be a positive distraction for all I know.
Yes my wife pasted 2 weeks ago she is a demethodist . I think is a question of this do do you belive in the bible or the Muslim faith etc . I am a methodist as in 1963 l um was hit by a car badly hurt my heart stopped l went um er l was not in me l putside its hard to explain i went towards a light there where thing around me l l wasum peaceful. But when l woke up in hospital l 2 broken ribs anlikwd a broken arm l got over this but l can never explain what happened in 5 minutes but it seemed not 5 like hour so l feel there is something l am hurting at mo at the loss of my wife. But funny l belive there is something dont give up ken Oxford
I was brought up CofE, but now I attend a Methodist Church. Since my husband died just coming up for 4 years in March, my faith has grown stronger. Its the belief of a new life to come and I’ll be with him again that keeps me going from day to day. Without that faith I would be lost.
The methodist minister has just been we have hyms a service of hope for a new beginning. Um as the minister said it s up to the person to belive but he also said after a passing of a loved one, our faith in believing drops until a while after the funeral and passing . I do and will believe but after a journey of 5 years of nursing vascular dimentia one does wonder why we suffer or our loved ones suffer . I could not after 2 weeks not go to service on sunday past but through the mist l will return my thought s and prayers are with you ken oxford
@MissingEsCanar everryone has their own faith. but i think logically after millions of yrs and the billions that have died, heaven isnt that big. i personnally think once you die, thats it.
the best thing you can do is remember the person, the great lfe you had together etc and then move on however hard that is.
if people find faith in believing what they do then thats fine, its a personal choice
Hi @MissingEsCanar my partner Armando was raised catholic and although he did not believe in god at the end, his mom still does. I would like to believe that I will see him again, but I can not be sure. However, my understanding of faith is that it’s just that, faith, it’s what’s in your heart. Logic, reasoning doesn’t come into it. I could tell you that science proves that… blah blah blah, but it’s irrelevant because we don’t know, and we never will. I am not religious but I still believe we will be together again in some way or another.
Just follow your heart and let nobody tell you otherwise, because they don’t know. There might not be giant pearly gates, and we might not be sleeping on clouds, but I believe heaven is what ever you want it to be. For me, it’s Armando and I, cuddled on the sofa, watching crappy TV with mugs of hot chocolate.
Look after yourself, x JB.
Yes um l have not been to methodist hall for 5 years yet my local group whom we only see once a month where as soon as they heard. Does it help to have belief not at the moment but after the loss of de wife my minister was first came round for coffee he made his as l was in a state but he and many helped including my sister gay brother and partner . I tried to make church on sunday but l went to a small gatherings on wensday eveng just coffee and a biscuit etc so my journey has started my lovely wife is at rest so does a belief help Yes it does. I am still looking for my faith to come l know it will . Messages from beyond passing this morning l had a robin visit me and some how 2 white feathers in my front hall and most of all my wifes 2 westie doggies are snuggling up to me . Thats my handel name minty and skye l have great hope ken near oxford