Hi. Three weeks ago I had the news my dad’s cancer has spread so now home with palliative care in place. He is fine in himself at the moment. Just had the news today that my mum may have dementia, having an MRI next week. I have three brother but I’m feeling - numb, confused and sad. I’m trying to carry on and keep myself busy but my mind is racing. Any tips on how to cope over the next coming months.
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Hi Tracey, I wish I could give you something that would make your future easier. These parts of life are often the most difficult and test us. If possible I would try and do some exercise and spend some time each day to go walking in nature as these things will help with the stress.
My wife survived for two years with cancer after being given five months to live. Although it was a terrible time it was also full of love and lovely memories. We spent so much time hugging and holding hands every moment was precious.
My advice would be to look after yourself as you need to be strong for your family so don’t undermine your health and try and enjoy any moment you can with your mother and father. Keep on posting here everyone understands the pain you are going through and it’s a good place to get things off your chest. Which also helps.
Wishing you all the strength you will need
Tom
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Hi @TraceyA
I’m so sorry to hear about dad and your mum. It sounds like there is so much going on right now, but it’s good that you have reached out on here, as others will be able to offer their support and any tips for coping.
I also wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources you may find helpful to read:
* What is anticipatory grief? Coming to terms with the fact that someone close to you is going to die can be extremely upsetting and painful, but grieving all those big and little changes to your dreams, responsibilities, routines and more all make anticipatory grief what it is.
* Supporting someone near the end of life These pages contain practical advice for those helping someone close to death, support for families of terminally ill patients and information about what you can expect when death is near.
I hope you find this information a good support and please keep reaching out 
Take good care,
Naoise
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Good morning Tracey , I hope you are coping. Don’t forget to to look after yourself
Wishing you all the strength you will need.
All the best
Tom