I’ve had a really really rough few days, not gotten out of bed unless for dad duties, not slept more than a couple of hours a night. I’m hurting so bad that it’s making me physically sick, I’d never had a panic attack before so I don’t know if this is what’s going on but every night I feel like I can’t breathe, get so warm, shake, go dizzy and get sick. I really don’t know how much longer I can take this, it’s completely consumed me at this point
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@Diadhuit so sorry you are feeling such pain, i can identify with it and understand the hopelessness. I have bad days and worse days. I’m hoping the worse days will become less. I have seen the GP and have meds which help with the panic attack symptoms. I know its personal choice but i feel they have helped a bit and I’ll take all the help i can get at the moment. Sending positive thoughts and love to everyone feeling this grief.
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Hello again @Diadhuit. Are you able to talk to your Doctor? It sounds like you’re really having a rough time and maybe getting support/advice from a medical professional is one way forward. Are you getting support from friends & family? These forums are great support for people but sometimes we need to call in the professionals to help us through some rocky times. I hope you find some peace and support soon. Best wishes
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Hi, thank you for replying, its as if ive just hit a brick wall, i thought i was doing ok and now im just not. I dont have that much support around me so i feel very alone. my doctor did give me anti anxiety pills but im not good with medications and stuff im just a bit worried of taking them
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We’re here matey if you need us. I have hit those brick walls too and noticed a drop off in friends but if we can help I know we will.
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Does it honestly get any easier? I’ve never felt pain like it, and its not even just emotionally and in my head, actual physical pain
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I can’t answer for anyone else but I think slowly it does but I’ve found there’s no point trying to bottle things up - that just makes things worse. I have to believe that life does get better and I know my partner would want me to go and live the rest of my life and not lock myself away so to speak. Maybe have a chat with your Doctor, explain your concerns around medication and see if there are other options to help ease the physical pain. I really do wish you all the best.
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Hey, thank you for checking in. I’ve had a horrible couple of days so have just spent time away from my phone and time reflecting. just really am in the thick of it at the minute but im struggling on. hope you are well also
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@Diadhuit Rough days are part of it I guess - my problem is getting a normal sleep pattern established. we’re here for you when you need to let off steam or just talk.
Best Wishes
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Hi. I read these comments and had to write. Im so sorry you are feeling this way. I understand. Ive not been on here for a couple of months. Its been 4 months since i lost my fiance to suicide. My friends have slowly left me and i feel so isolated. My sister was my best friend and she died of cancer 3 years ago and my mum died of cancer too. Im living for my 2 boys. My 20 year old is struggling as much as me. Today i can’t function. Ive hit a brick wall too. I know that feeling. Ive run out of hope, Energy. I cant appreciate anything and nothing matters. Im just existing. My partner took my life when he took his . My only comfort is that i won’t be here forever as i can’t bear this pain. Im on 150mg sertraline. I am so depressed. I am so sorry you both are going through losses too. Id love to talk if you feel like it as i dont want to talk to any more counsellors.
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Hi @Lindsey26 So sorry to hear of your losses and circumstances. Sometimes it can help to talk to a counsellor even thought they might not totally understand the grief you are experiencing they may be able to offer you some coping strategies to help you when you’re having a bad day. Am happy to chat but I’m not an expert, my grief will be different to yours (I lost my partner to cancer 4 months ago) but I’ll listen. There are twice weekly Zoom meetings with other forum members who have suffered loss and you might find these more helpful. These aren’t run by Sue Ryder but by about 10 or 12 of us who share and chat for an hour or so on Tuesday and Friday evenings at 8pm. If you (or anyone else) want an invite to the page where the Zoom links are posted then let me or @KarenF know. Best Wishes.
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Thankyou so much. Right now I’m not ready for group chats. I am so sorry for your loss. 4 months too for you . It doesnt seem real does it. Its so difficult carrying this sadness around. It feels so heavy.
Hi lindsey.so sorry for your loss.i lost my girlfriend to cancer last Saturday after 3 and half year battle with cancer.im devastated as you can imagine.we did everything together i just lived for her.hospital appointments just caring for her.the emptyness and the fact i can never hold her tell her how much i loved her.she knew this though anyway.you will get there and enjoy life again.dont let this destroy you.you will be happy again.shane.x