Hi @Pam4,
I’m sorry to hear that you haven’t felt included in conversations on the site. It is true that there are people here who have been using the site for a while and know each other well, so there will naturally be some chat backwards and forwards between them on some conversations.
However, some of the other users have made some really helpful points here about the difference between starting your own conversation and replying to others - if you start a conversation yourself, you will normally get supportive replies focused on you and your story. If you reply to a conversation started by someone else, then the conversation will tend to be focused on supporting the person who started it, and if you are one reply among many, you may not get as many personal responses directly to you.
I can see that most of your posts so far have been replies to conversations started by others. However, you did start a conversation yourself here: Scared and lonely. - all the replies to this are directed at you and look very supportive.
Our community guidelines ask people to be respectful and supportive and try to stay on topic, which generally means focusing on the issue raised by the original poster who started the conversation (although sometimes conversations wander naturally and with the original poster still participating, which is fine).
If you need some help on the difference between starting a conversation and reply to one, you can check out our help section, where there are step-by-step instructions:
How to start a new conversation
How to reply to a conversation
Or, if that doesn’t help, you can email online.community@sueryder.org and I will do my best to talk you through it.