Ps just had a massive crying session so will reply in more detail soon xx
Thank you means a lot and sorry for your loss yes family all for them selfs I wasnāt allowed a thing of my fiancĆ© apart from his engagement ring i west and few bits I left their his DJ kit is in storage wasting away he didnāt have time to change things in his will because he passed suddenly last July aged 51 I snatched her over the fact Iāll never ever see him again it breaks me and getting no support only from this group x take care
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I really understand what you are going through believe me. All you wanted was love and happiness and then you were robbed of that. I have been having a hard time as trying to sell new things I had bought for our caravan. Some idiot asked me reason I was sellling the awning and explained because my partner died suddenly and the horrible man then tried to defraud me via PayPal. I have reported him to them so hope they manage to catch him before he tries it with someone else. Like you I hate feeling lonely. We have both been through a terrible ordeal and suffered on top of that through partners families. I truly do feel for you xx
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Thatās awful thereās some truly nasty people around.You have got your memories and they canāt take them away.
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Thank you - I have thankfully and there are some beautiful memories amongst them x
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Thank you I went out last night to a bowling alley with my eldest daughter met friends had a few drinks now feel sad and guilty like I am portraying my fiancƩ memory etc so sad I so wish my DJ was here so I can listen to his voice again I have memories and photos but his family robbed me of saying goodbye also no ashes etc such a cruel world we live in
Yes very nasty Iām trying to move forward but feel guilty Incas ei forget him which I wonāt
@Eveybabes
Please donāt feel guilty about going out and attempting to have a good time. Iām sure that he would want you to be happy. I keep trying to socialise and sometimes itās fun for a while, I know he would want me to. We do have to keep going. Going to see some bands on Saturday, Steve was meant to be playing there, no idea if that band have a new drummer or even if theyāll still be on, weāll see, if so itāll be upsetting for me but I need to bite the bullet.
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Iām so sorry to read your post and for the loss of your partner 
I suddenly lost my partner 6 weeks ago too, I also found him, he was only just 39 and fit and healthy, still waiting for results to come back for his cause of death. Similar to you, because we werenāt married his long lost son who wanted nothing to do with him for the past 4+ years and also when he was told said he mourned his dad years ago so he didnāt want to know suddenly came along and took over and left me out of everything important to me (funeral, ashes etc) this was only because my partner had a large life insurance through work which automatically goes to his children anyway. Because neither me nor my children were mentioned in the eulogy or had any input in the funeral I also feel like our relationship meant nothing. Itās like one minute we were together and planning a future (his best friend told me he had planned to propose next month) and now heās just gone and I have nothing, I donāt want to live a life without him, every night I go to bed and pray I donāt wake up, Iām not sure how Iām supposed to live like this 
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Thank you so much for having the courage to send me that very sad message. My heart truly goes out to you. Why are people so wicked! I do understand how you feel as I feel the same. Tbh itās only the dogs keeping me here. Itās the loneliness that is getting to me. I do have lovely neighbours who have been wonderful but they go away tonight for two weeks - I am made up for them but I will miss them like crazy. I wish I could be more positive for you but truly I understand. Tears rolling down my cheeks again just cannot help it. Please keep in touch. Big hug xxx
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I totally understand how you feel. Lots of false promises from my partnerās sons and suddenly itās as if I didnāt exist. The last thing their father would have wanted I am sure. I hate that it makes you question yr relationship , purely based on their callous behaviour since their dad has passed away.
I never considered anything like this with those boys-unbelievable.
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True and I went and played pool
Last night it was fine till I came home then broke down again weird we both lost someone called Steve yours a drummer mine a DJ they will be entertaining other angels and they will always be with us xx
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My ex boss has just Messaged me and said something which is really true. She may be trying to take everything from you, but she canāt take away the memories that you shared with him. Treasure them my friends xxx
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@Eveybabes
In the end I didnāt stay long as felt unwell. His band wasnāt playing anyway, phew. Steve was so unwell but was always cheerful and dragged himself to work (self employed). Whenever he was around music he lit up, whether playing or listening. It kept him going. I know they will be waiting for us when the times comes.
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Same as my
Steve he lived for his music his fav song is John miles music
I just wanted some ashes and to say goodbye but wasnāt allowed
Any idea if they scattered them somewhere? Ask the funeral director.
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His youngest has them sue contacted me via Facebook I asked if I could and she said I want to keep dad to myself for when Iām older to tattoo the ashes into her skin which some people do and because sheās only 16 didnāt want to argue with her
They only need a tiny bit for that, same as if you want a piece of jewellery made, not even a teaspoon. Maybe say youād like the same?
Thats really sad.
Surely she could share a little with you
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