I had a dream last night/this morning that really upset me and I needed to share it to see what you thought…
In my dream the phone was ringing and I answered it. On the other end of the line I could hear someone crying and I knew that it was my husband (who passed a calendar month ago yesterday). I woke up feeling so upset.
I know that some people say loved ones visit/communicate via dreams - whilst others say dreams are a way to vent emotions.
Does anyone have any thoughts on what my dream could mean? Does/Has anyone else dreamed of their loved one?
I’m not sure that dreams have more specific meanings beyond the mind trying to process and navigate its way through grief.
I have recurring dreams about my wife. Often they have a similar theme.
Once recent one was I was going somewhere in the car and she was with me in the passenger set.
She became quite anxious and was saying she was worried that she hadn’t had a blood test recently ( she was having them weekly in the months before she died due to low blood counts, needing transfusions and such, and also good a bit obsessed toward the end as her brain mets were affecting her memory)
I was trying to reassure her it wasn’t necessary, and she was getting more insistent that she did need one, it was overdue , and it was really important.
I didn’t have the heart to say to her she didn’t need a blood test because she was dead.
@Reality I think that dreams are our mind working things out . I’m sure your husband is missing you as much as you miss him . A medium told me he was missing me x
I was so upset when I woke up and worried that it was, indeed, him. But I think you are right and that it is just my mind trying to organise my emotions.
@Reality You are not alone. I lost my Gran/Dad (biologically my Grandad but his role was being my Dad) in September. I dream about him regularly.
The first time it happened I was really distressed by it, because everyone was behaving like it was normal in my dream, but I knew it wasn’t. Then no one would answer me when I asked what was going on.
Since, I usually dream about him once a week. I always know I am dreaming, which makes it a bit sad, but I just talk to him. This week he was in a room and we went for a walk together, he loved walking and would walk miles every day when he was in good health.
It is a bit sad sometimes. I know my family believe he is ‘visiting’ me. Personally I see myself as an extension of him & this is my subconsciousness trying to help me overcome my grief by giving me these opportunities to do things with him again. I think it is okay to take what we like from the experiences.
I dreamt a few times about my Philmore. Once he came to our bedroom and said it was all an error and that he was still alive. I was crying in my sleep and the whole following day I could not stop crying. But he also gives me advice in my dreams or reminds me to do certain things he was doing in the past. For example to cover the outside tap in front of our house in case of freezing temperatures. I planned to cover the tap but was distracted by something else and in the night Philmore told me not to forget the outside tap. Or when I panic about something I can hear his voice and feel his touch to calm me down. Maybe it is all wishful thinking but I do not care for an explanation, it helps me to survive another day and night. Sending love and hugs.
Juat an upsetting dream i was reading an article a while ago and it said the person who has died … does not know they are dead … and they dont do they ! Its us that carries the pain … its us that are left behind , alone and missing them. They dont feel anything anymore so in many ways they are the lucky ones who dont have to go through this heartache xx
@Deb5 it’s strange he told me to calm down through the medium . I guess I am a bit hyper at times but I have dealt with everything that has been thrown at me and I am proud of that . I wish I had more signs from him xxx
i was reading an article a while ago and it said the person who has died … does not know they are dead … and they dont do they ! Its us that carries the pain … its us that are left behind , alone and missing them. They dont feel anything anymore