I lost my dad just over a month ago now, but it still feels like yesterday. He died suddenly and without warning and myself and my family are broken beyond words.
He was truly the greatest man I know and he was the core of our universe. Without him I feel like we are all floating helplessly, alone. Each of us dealing with it in completely different ways.
I had just accepted a new job a few days before he passed and I got the chance to tell him which I will always be grateful for. But now I just don’t know if I can do it. I can’t even make it through the morning without crying. I think of dad every second of the day and it just feels unbearable.
He had so much more to live for and he deserved better. He should get to retire and grow old, read his books he had been saving up and see his children grow with him too.
I just can’t face going back out in to the world without him here.
I have tried to set up local counselling with various places now but they are all telling me it’s too soon. And I agree that it’s too soon to try and pretend that I am ok, which is why I am reaching out for help with them. What more am I supposed to do now?
I am so deeply sad for all the moments I will now miss with my dad but mostly I feel heartbroken for him. I miss him so much. I just wish I could see him again to thank him for everything and tell him I love him.
I know and I hope things will get better but for now it doesn’t feel like it ever will.
Hi Elizebethe, so sorry regarding your dad. Dads are extra special to their daughters and when they leave us we miss so very much. It is early days but posting on here and reading other people’s post will help and give you an idea about grief and grieving. It’s hard for us to not seeing or hearing that special person and as you say everyone is different in the way they try to work through this horrible period in life. Please take it slowly, don’t rush and let the emotions out an in time you will see that the pain and distress going away. Give all your family members extra hugs because you all need them right now. S xx
Dear Elizabethe,
I feel with you. I lost my dad almost 4 months ago, and I feel just like you. In December I go to an online group. The worst is if you can’t cry out yourself, because you havent’t got a mate/friend/sy to share your pain. I would write with you in pm, if you would like. I experience that we don’t want to bother anybody, I will be if you would like an ear to hear you. Send you hugs.
Hi, I’m so sorry to hear about your dad! I know exactly how you feel last year I lost my little sister and my mum, and then earlier this year my stepdad passed away .
To say I’m heartbroken is an understatement, I miss them all so much it hurts everyday .
We have to be strong for our loved ones and the ones that have passed because they wouldn’t want us to be in pain. Trust me I know that’s not easy but take it one day at a time and we will get there! Stay strong, my deepest condolences xxx
Stargirl, I’m very, very, so sorry for your loss, I hear you.
Thank you for your kind words.
I have to be strong, I know, I am trying.
My deepest condolences, Stargirl,
and thank you to take time for me.
I’m 5 months down the line of losing my dad who was also far too young. It’s still very, very difficult.
It has come at such difficult timing with regards to getting a new job. I have found grief has really knocked my confidence at work. I wonder if there is any flexibility in your new start date if you explained the situation to your new manager?
I started counselling quite soon after my dad died, within the first month maybe. It was helpful as I couldn’t tolerate the pain alone.
Cruse also have a live chat function on their website where you can talk to qualified beareavement counsellors. Anyone can access it, they don’t assess you or anything beforehand. I have found it very useful on my dark days.
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