Dual loss

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Hi, after reading a lot of the posts here, I’m deeply touched by the openness and heartbreak here.

I’m new here, but I don’t think I belong here as I don’t really fit into the categories here.

I saw the crash that snapped my wife’s neck like a twig. And later watched my youngest son die in front of me 4 hours later. So I fit into losing a partner and losing a son.

There’s so much horror, trauma and pain attached with their deaths, I honestly find it almost impossible to cope.

Friends and family have disappeared into the woodwork leaving myself and surviving Son to go through this alone.

I’ve even had Samaritans hang up on me TWICE when I was at my lowest and contemplating ending it all.

So here I am alone, yet still having to carry on…

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@Fester62 I’m glad you have a surving son. What you describe sounds incredibly hard, I am so sorry! If you fit in the category of “grieving” you definitely belong here. Check in on “how’s your day going” thread, and you will find a lot of support. I hope you rest well tonight Cindy :pink_heart:

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Fester so sorry for how you are feeling, that is horrible, no one should hafta witness something like that..i believe Sue Ryder offers more resources, please look into it.. my heart goes out to you, im so very sorry for your loss, you and your son must be there for one another…

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Very sorry to hear about your devastating losses. You actually do belong in more than one category here (unfortunately). Sure you will find helpful messages from others in both the partner and the child section, as well as the general ones…

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Hi @Fester62
I am sorry for your losses in to lose them in such a horrible way is unimaginable.
I am glad you have one surviving son
Although your grief maybe slightly different. You can help support each other.
You definitely do belong here , there are a lot of lovely supportive people on here .
Who have all lost a loved one .
Look after yourself :heart:

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Hello @Fester62

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your wife and son that brings you here.

I’m sure others will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share details of other support which you may find helpful:

  • BRAKE provides emotional and practical support for victims of road crashes.
  • Shout are also contactable by text, 24/7. You can text SHOUT to 85258 and talk to them about anything.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support.

Please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take good care,

Naoise

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