Losing a partner young
I’m 49, I lost my hubby 2019, been together 33 years, since I was 15. Can’t see any future. Anyone in same place as me? X
Hi. I’m 47…my husband died in September last year…worst six months ever…and now society has fallen apart and everything has changed…overwhelmed doesn’t cut it.
It was his birthday yesterday. My friend wrote a beautiful poem for me. It made me cry…but it’s very much meant to give hope. It might help you too x
Prophecy for Liz
I cannot tell you when this grey fog of loss will lift.
It is not in my gift to say how many autumns must grind gold into tobacco dust –
Nor count how many winters will come thin and pale to steal your warmth.
This I can foretell: kindness will shred the protective film dividing your heart and grief,
Springs will burst upon you, over-eager, with the song of blackbirds.
One summer’s evening, the glass will thin between you and a sunset’s extravagant mourning.
You will not remain trapped: a spider betwixt tumbler and paper, huddled and wary -
That tender gaoler, Time, will let you go.
You will find a breadcrumb trail beneath dark and clawing branches.
Light will make small pools along your path,
Will pick out tender roses, blooms to make your eyes smart and blink.
Harsh, unwanted tears will salt the slabs of dirty ice into becks.
Know that low and muffling clouds cannot hug the tops for ever.
Sleet is not the only ruler of the moors,
And emptiness is not the sole offering of the hours.
Down in the small chasms of limestone, cranesbill seeds still shoot unseen.
Snow, hail or storms fail to halt their tiny purpose.
Even tumultuous ash will settle - no more years without a summer.
You will meet a raw island, a bequest from deep waters.
Vision cleared; you will name it your new home.
19th March 2020
Hi Dongle ,
I, like you, also lost my husband November 2019.
He was 56, I’m 51. We’ve been together 33 years, met him when I was 17.It was sudden, went out fine to work in the morning and that was it, our lives have changed forever. He had a cardiac arrest.
Always thought we would grow old together, had lots of plans for the future, now all gone.
Dying young, never thought for a million years that would ever happen, Tim, was so fit and healthy, and to have his life cut short is devastating, I feel dead inside, and don’t see a future anymore. I also feel for him, he would of hated not being able to say goodbye to us all and has lost his future.
I have to carry on for my daughters and 3 beautiful grandchildren, all under 3, and it upsets me that my husband won’t get to see them grow up.
Life is so very cruel.
I know exactly how you are feeling, as do everyone else on here. It’s a good place to come and write your feelings down, as people around us just don’t get it. I feel I’m burdening people, so I put a face on and try to be normal, then people say ,- you seem better if they only knew how I’m feeling inside .
Keep in touch, we can all help each other to try and stay strong, as we are all going through the same awful heartbreaking time,
Love to you and your family.
I’m the same lost my partner of 21 years unexpectedly last November I’m 50 he was 55 got no children and at present can’t see the point of anything went back to work three weeks ago which has slightly helped
Hang in there, things will get better.
My mum and dad were both 53 when he died suddenly from a major heart attack.
I’m struggling with both of them now gone, but things will get better x
Thanks for the reply and sorry for your loss I can image how hard it has been for you
Take care x
Thankyou, for all of us x
Thankyou all for talking, it hurts to know there’s others going through this pain but nice to know there’s someone out there that understands . Take care x