I am sitting here, all alone, as we all are, wishing I wasn’t. But, what’s the alternative? Do I wish I was dead, to be with him? I can’t, because that would mean my daughter, who is severely disabled, would be put into care? No, of course not. Do I wish it was me that had died? No, because I would not wish this pain on anyone, least of all him.
So, no alternative. All I can do is what I would want him to do. And that is to make the best life he could for himself and my daughter.
Easier said than done, I know. But what is the alternative to ‘coping’? So many people say that they don’t know how I am ‘coping’, but what is the alternative? What does ‘not coping’ look like? Buggered if I know.
Onwards and upwards xx
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There isn’t an alternative Willow and no one really knows how we feel. Unfortunately we don’t have a choice other than keep going.
I said on an earlier post today that someone said to me ‘if you are going through hell then keep going, as why would you want to stay there’. They had a point. x
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What a different way to look at it - makes complete sense to me.
Strangely makes me feel a bit better after some really hard days. Thanks for sharing @jody
Willow I think ‘not coping’ for me would look like my mum, sadly, who completely gave up after my dad died 7 years ago. She is now lonely, depressed, physically frail and unwilling to do the simplest of tasks for herself. It is so sad.
You are on here like many others, trying our best to get to that ‘coping’ place. I myself am sure as hell not managing it, but we all need to keep trying to get there however we can.
Maybe the fact we keep going is our coping at the moment. I hope easier times lie ahead for us all.
Xxx
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The sad thing is that if you are a loving couple that have built a life together it will always happen that one of us has to be left behind heartbroken and lost. X
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