hi im Eileen
I lost my husband of 45 years 6 months ago it was devastating we had been together since we were 17 I have 2 amazing children and 4 grandchildren who I love so much ,I also have a very supportive family and inlaw family but why do I feel so alone ,I miss him so much he was so caring and we made so many great memories together,my life now is very lonely despite the beautiful family I have .I cry every night wishing he was here with me ,life can be so cruel and im so angry he was taken from me .
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Hi Eileen I am very sorry to hear that you are suffering so much. The loneliness is unbearable, after the shock and pain that hits first, it is the awful emptiness that we are left with. We can be surrounded by people and yet the sensation of being totally alone floods us. I don’t think it mattered if our loved one was near us, just knowing that in this world you meant everything to someone else and they meant everything to you was such a gift.
I hope you find some comfort here as everyone on this site understands how you are feeling. We are all going through the same loss.
Wishing you all the best
Tom
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I’m the same when I m with friends and family, still feel lonely and sad. It’s good to have support but what you really want is that person you lost. I’ m seven months into my grief now after losing my lovely partner. I don’t feel that things are any easier. Take care, posting on this site validates your feelings as other people are going through the same grief process.
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Hi Eileen
The reason you feel like that is you lost someone so dear to you the love of your life and your soulmate that is great that you have in laws that still care and kids and grandkids but it does not give you back what you have lost I know that well I lost my husband paul 5yrs ago we have no.children and his family are non existent and my own brothers think I should be over it by now how do you get over losing the man that you where married to for 44yrs you don’t so that’s why you feel like that I hope your family all support you as that is what we all.need take care of yourself my lovely
Sweetlady
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Hello Eileen. So sorry for the loss of your husband, I lost my husband 7 weeks ago, and it is the most painful experience I’ve ever been through, on this site people understand, not many of my friends or relatives understand until it happens to you, I also have 2 grown children and 2 grandchildren, who are my world, but no one can replace that relationship I had with my beautiful husband of 35 years. I too feel alone in a crowded room. God bless you all
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I lost my husband eight weeks ago to cancer and it’s brutal. The loneliness is awful and dealing with the volume of paperwork I find overwhelming. I have a supportive family but I think when my husband passed away half of me went too.
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Dear @Cheryl21 ,
You are still in the most painful, traumatizing and nightmarish early phase of the grieving process.
I feel your despair, the acute pain in your heart, the sadness and the perceived hopelessness.
In the very long run things will improve, the grief, the sadness etc. will fade into the background a bit but they’ll always be present.
Your hubby is looking out for you from Heaven, patiently awaiting your reunion in Heaven.
And that reunion will be for all infinite eternity!
Sending strength your way, may God bless you!
Kind regards - Joe
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Hi Cheryl, I am sorry to hear you suffering, it’s the worst pain in the world to lose your loved one. After a life of growing together to be ripped apart is devastating.I hope you find some solace here as everyone understands what you are feeling as we have all gone through this suffering. Wishing you all the strength you will need
All the best
Tom
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