Emotional Response to everything.

I lost my 2nd wife to MND in January, 10 years previously I lost my first wife of 35 years to another dreadful disease. I find my emotions are now out of control, I am told this is ‘normal’ - but I do not call it normal to have tears running down your face watching a happy TV programme never mind a sad or violent one which I avoid anyway. This can even happen in public, at the supermarket or in the street, its ridiculous, exhausting and wasteful. I can’t be the only person to experience this - surely there must be a way to control it?

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Hello @DSC ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling out of control of your emotions. I’m so sorry to hear about your losses, this must be truly devastating for you. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


Hello and thanks for sharing this with us i am glad we can help each other. I had a similar experience last week watching a TV programme i want to say I understand you and you have a right to feel this way especially when you loved them and still do.

Thanks for everyone’s replies, I feel that I can handle or tolerate the grief from the loss of my wives which I can understand but what I find so hard to cope with or deal with is my out of control emotional responses to simple situations such as stories on the TV or in books. Then more disturbing is my out of control response to real life. For example, a few weeks ago I had a fantastic holiday in Yorkshire I was really happy, then on the way home my car broke down on the motorway and for the first time in over 50 years of driving I had to be recovered and my car transported to a main dealer. I would normally have dealt with this situation with logic and although I did, by checking into a hotel for the night, arranging for the car to be delivered to a main dealer, arrange a hire car and get home, the emotional destabilisation was horrendous, I was unable to sleep, my blood pressure was through the roof, my behaviour was panicked and all the euphoria of the weekend was gone, and my emotional response to everything else which I had thought was under control, blown apart. I have regressed several months. This kind of response is just so out of character and I just wonder how long it will take to get myself back to normal.

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Its normal