Don’t know how to feel just know that what I feel needs to be allowed to be spoken about
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Hello @Robin3 ,
I’m so sorry for your losses. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
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Hello Robin
How are you today? I was glad you wrote down how you do not know how to feel. Think I must have been like that at first.
Was a lot of confusion. Hard to know where to start. Just can chat about anything. Sometimes that is all want to do.
Putting one foot in front of the other and just getting along somehow.
My cat just talks in her funny way.
Staring with her green eyes.
Mixed feelings about how I manage my birthday as was a twin
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Sorry you have lost a sibling. What would you have done to celebrate if your twin was here ?
I feel lost having mixed feelings as my birthday is today and I can’t be with her
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I can only imagine how you must feel, but I’m sure she’s been there with you all day today and not left your side. She would of wanted you to celebrate your day today Im sure, for both of you
I am the only person who acknowledges that I have a twin
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That sounds complicated .
Did you decide to do anything to mark your birthdays ?
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Cake cup cakes and a trip to a butterfly house
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Robin, there is no right or wrong way, just what is right for you. Just be kind to yourself throughout.
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Scared of releasing as I know I find it difficult to stop
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Robin, your loss is so deep and perhaps the most tragic. I can not imagine losing a sibling, much less a twin. I am so very, very sorry.
How does one handle a birthday such as this? Make sure the cake has both names and a place is set for your twin with your favorite photo of him/her. It will start some conversation about your twin and your loss.
Cry your heart out. For the Love of Mike! Cry until the tears stop. They will. They will become less and less. But, let them out now. Then splash cold water on your face, blow your nose and lie down with a cold wet cloth on your eyes.
Hugs.
Since I wrote that my cat helps staring with her green eyes, she died suddenly Monday night on the 2nd anniversary of my husband’s death.
So now I am grieving my cat who was 13 and would be 70 in human years. She wasn’t herself.
She called and I found her sitting upstairs facing the stairs waiting to hear my voice. So went and found her and stroked her head and she purred. She didn’t want to move. I went downstairs to clear the decks and put food in her empty bowl. Filled up her water. I took water upstairs by where she was still sitting. Stroked her and left her. She didn’t follow. I fell asleep.
I called her no answer so went upstairs and she wasn’t where she had been. I was calling her and went in all the five rooms up there. No answer. Then I saw her on the fleece by a bed.
I thought she was asleep on her side at first but when I touched her she was stiff and cold. I was so shocked. I went downstairs. I then went back up and put a plastic bag under her.
Then decided I must move her to her bed in the unheated garage.
We buried her in the garden yesterday wrapped in her blanket and cardboard packaging. My autistic son wouldn’t let me protect her in plastic he said it hasn’t bio. Today I laid a stone slab on the top and a lot of planted heavy pots on top.
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