When will the constant under lying sadness stop. I can be happy/angry like I was before but then I remember and it’s just back to feeling this empty sad feeling
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Hello raes
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear how you are feeling. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Rhi
Hi Raes
I don’t know how long it is since you lost your loved one but I guess its early days as you have just joined us.
Grief never goes we just learn to live with it and develop coping mechanisms.
I am 6 months in I lost my partner suddenly in May, at first you think you will not survive, how can you survive, why would you want to survive but you will survive and you have your children so you have a big and lovely reason to carry on.
There will be times raes when you feel utter despair but you need to let the grief out , let it flow, cry, weep, yell it has to come out and after a good weeping session you will feel relieved for a while, it will build up again and you will release it again but these events will get further apart but it all takes time.
you will carry your love inside you for the rest of your life but there will come a tome when you can smile when you remember things but right now it all hurts terribly, that is normal, know what you are feeling is normal and we have all had to or are going through it and we do come out the other side and learn to carry our loved one and their love and your memories with you in a special place in your heart that is just for them.
I have been feeling stronger and having less of the dreadful days but today is my partners birthday and I have had a very sad day but he would want me to live the best life I can and I am going to the best I can to have a good life.
One little step at a time that’s all any of us can do.
Keep posting on here and reading what others have posted as it really really does help a lot.