My husband died on June 26th this year, after almost 10 years of marriage. He lost his first wife in 2012. I know it’s still very early days but I miss him so much and dread the thought of spending the years ahead without him. I can’t carry on with the things we’d planned because he’s not here to see it. Tears come without warning and it’s so hard to stop them. I know he’d want me to carry on and live my life but he’s not here to tell me. I have a stepson and stepdaughter who, naturally are upset to lose their dad, and are very supportive, but they’re not him and they have their own families to look to.
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It is very early days, i am about 4 weeks ahead of you, it does get a little easier as time goes by, you need to cry and weep and wail, dont hold back it is healing. Your hubby would want you to carry on and you will take him with you in your heart and mind for ever. You are feeling this intense grief because you love him. Carry on reading and posting on here it does help a lot . We are all in the same boat, some have just rowed a bit further on some are following you but we all understand the hell , horror and devastation that loosing our loved one does. X
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Good morning Harriet. I am glad you found us, though sorry you needed to. My husband died on 25th May.
You are not alone, everything you feel is normal. We all understand the pain and loss. Just try to take an hour at a time for now. Keep putting one foot in front of the other.
Sending you a hug. Xx
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My husband died suddenly 12 weeks ago he was 65 and I am 56, the first 4 weeks I was numb don’t know if it was the shock having no time to prepare for it or what ? I didn’t eat , I didn’t sleep , I didn’t even get dressed! Few weeks on and I have been away on two breaks with my son I should of done with my husband, no it wasn’t the same but he was with me in my mind all the time , the thought of 30/40 years ahead without him I can’t imagine , but I can stay gradually I started to eat, sleep and even plan a few future outings with friends , I think of him first thing in the morning and the last thing at night and I guess I always will x
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Oh @Harriet4Bill
Its such early days for you.
Everything you are feeling is normal and as much as it hurts now, gradually you will learn to live with it.
Just take it day by day or hour by hour and eventually you will find you are coping.
Keep posting on here, we all understand.
I’m afraid it’s like being on a rollercoaster full of ups but many more dips. But hopefully the dips will become less and the ups more. And maybe one day in the you will be able to get right off it.
Sending love and hugs x
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