Yeh my mum has been supportive to me since he passed but i remember on day she came to see my husband she was very quiet 
she did hug my husband though … im not making excuses for them, im just trying to offer an explanation? But you do what is right for you … i dont blame you for not talking to them after not supporting their daughter tbh … take care xx
Feeling your pain. The void is huge so it’s no wonder you’re feeling at such a loss. I’m 3.5 months into the passing of my beloved husband. Married for 39 years, together for 44 years. I also lost my mum 3 weeks before Dave. I can’t quite believe it when I say 3.5 months. It feels more like 3.5 years. I feel like a pendulum where I swing from getting on with a day to being so distraught I can’t even think straight. I’ve had a dark cloud over me for the last 10 days but today with the blue skies I’ve managed to feel a little brighter so have taken myself off on a day out. But I accept I will go back to those dark times when the pendulum swings that way again. I’m learning that grief is not linear, you won’t gradually feel better but kind of swing between coping and wanting to spend all day in your pyjamas. It’s early days for you too. I have no advice other than to say you are not alone . Try your hardest to stay busy but accept that some days you won’t want to get out of bed. Sending you all the best x
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@Deb5
Sorry if it sounded like i was being a bit spiky towards you regarding Anna’s parents potentially being in shock or in denial about her being ill, i can assure you that wasn’t my intention, it’s just that i have had to listen to quite a few people trying to make excuses for them & i cannot accept any excuses for what they did, i have Children myself & couldn’t for one second consider behaving in the manner that they did.
My Daughter & her Boyfriend announced to myself & Anna that they were expecting their first child four months before she passed away, unfortunately twelve days following Anna’s passing my Daughter was rushed to Hospital & had a miscarriage, the second i received the call to say she was on her way to Hospital i was in the car & on the way to support her in any way i could, it’s naturally a parent’s instinct to try to protect their child in any way possible, God only knows why her parents & brothers took the decision to act how they did, perhaps I’ll never get an answer to that question but i certainly won’t be accepting any excuses for them, not without some kind of explanation.
Take care & apologies once again xx
On a positive note, I’ve been to watch the Villa this evening, a well deserved win & 3 points on the board 
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No worries …thanks. i know you are really cross. I know how you mean - and also anger is part of grief as well you know , however youre justified to feel like you do because youre standing up for your wife ! 2 of my husbands brothers never got in touch when he was ill and consequently passed away and i doubt i will ever speak to them again ! So i know how you feel … the people who hurt my husband have not had time of day from me - you don’t forget do you after going through something so awful x
@Deb5
So glad you weren’t offended by my post. Like a said in previous post the memory of the disappointment on her face day after day when she heard footsteps coming down the ward only for it not to be them coming to see her will be etched in my mind forever, what do i say to someone suffering those kind of feelings ? that’s what I’ll never forgive or forget. So you have a similar situation to me with your Husband’s brothers, it’s unforgivable in my opinion.
I have no Family of my own since my parents passed away years ago so only had the support of my two Children the whole way through who were absolute rocks to both myself and Anna, I’m so proud of how they dealt with everything surrounding Anna’s illness & eventual passing, they showed a maturity well beyond their years & their ongoing support for me has been immeasurable xx
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