Hi Cordy,
How are things with you
Just want you to know I am thinking of you x
Deborah x
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Hello Deborah
Thank you for keeping in touch. I won’t leave it so long. I have sent a pm…I have a bit of trouble navigating around this website forum on my mobile.
I’m gearing up to raise awareness etc but I have to find strength. My apologies this sounds so vague but I’ll update soon - thinking of you too and sending best wishes and gratitude for you keeping in touch with me
My complaint finally got to Ombudsman but they still haven’t decided if they’re going to look into it it took me months to write - I hold little hope of truth or transparency, indeed the hospital reply to my complaint was a pack of lies and white wash absolutely disgusting which is added to my trauma - I’m sure this is a common practice to minimise mock and gaslight loved ones who put in a complaint against the hospital and respect of loved ones they have lost or who have clearly been mal-treated.
Anyway thank you again I will update more soon -;I’m not disappearing I just went a bit quiet again.
Take care best wishes for now
Cordy 
x
Hi Cordy,
First of all am sending loads of love to you. Well done on everything you have done so far with your complaint. You are an inspiration to us all who haven’t had the strength to go as far as you have with it.
Post whenever you feel you can and look after yourself.
Deborah x
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Thank you for your reply and perfect words - in truth I’ve become a nervous wreck but I know I have to try to find and maintain the strength in what is now my life purpose and course. I am used to facing ‘brick walls’, gaslighting, being minimised etc etc by those with power to dominate the narrative. I appreciate this sounds vague (but what happend to my ole dad is often too painful to write about).
Anyways sending best wishes your way and gratitude for you keeping in touch with me 
Cordy x
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@Cordy I too am awaiting the “whitewash” response from the hospital over my complaint about Dad’s care. My hopes aren’t high as they investigate so I won’t be disappointed. I’m glad I’m not alone in this. Take care. X
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Hello there
My huge apologies for my late reply. I’m not doing too well. I am so sorry for your loss too and thank you for your words.
I haven’t been on here for many weeks but I can give my email to those who have kindly messaged me in case anyone ever wants to contact direct.
I’m going through the big complaint process but it’s just awful.
My apologies for this out the blue reply but I’ve had emotional barriers to logging into this bereavement site but I know I must do so more regularly
With thoughts and best wishes your way - I’ll re read any messages I’ve missed above soon when I’m stronger and can reply better x 
Hi Cordy,
Just want to say how lovely it is to hear from you again. You have been missed very much.Glad you posted.
I can image going through a complaint process is tough going. But fair play to you for being so strong in pursuing it.
Look after yourself though.
Sending love
Deborah x
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I am hoping the ombudsman will investigate my complaint because the hospital told lies and the written response to my formal complaint was an insult and whitewash.
So the ombudsman emailed me this recently - so this is the current state:
Dear *(my name)
Thank you for discussing your complaint with me this afternoon.
I’m going to request the records from the Trust and have a think about how we need to proceed. I’ll be back in touch when I have done so, this will likely take several weeks due to needing the records.
If you have any issues in the meantime, please let me know.
Kind regards
J (*I’ve removed his name)
Caseworker
Parliamentary and Health Service Ombudsman
Hi Cordy,
Just want to say it’s lovely to see you back on here. Time flies but seeing you back on here is wonderful. It’s approx 17 months since we first started posting around the same time and what a journey it’s been. It’s so lovely to hear from you because you were at the start of it all with me.
Who would have thought we would reach this far. But we have somehow
You are so brave and strong in continuing with your complaint and I know there are others on here who have said they have also made complaints or in the process of doing so. I hope if anyone is reading this that is thinking of doing a complaint they will get in touch with you for advice as I know you care so passionately about the way forward with such matters.
Keep in touch and keep going
Sending much love
Deborah x
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Thank you SO much for your lovely words, and my apologies I’ve taken so long to reply. I have been struggling still with the ongoing grief etc.
Much love and healing best wishes for now to you and anyone reading this.
I’ll update in due course when I’m strong enough.
xxxx