Hi, I had been seeing my partner for almost a year. His mum died a few weeks ago and I was very supportive. I’m going through a lot of stuff myself at the moment too. A couple of weeks after the bereavement, I saw him and a few things had been in my mind so I messaged him very gently to ask how he thought things had been going, that there was no pressure and I knew he was going through a lot, I just wanted to know where I stood. I then felt awful for my timing and apologised twice. There were reasons for asking when I did but I feel like I’ve done something terrible now. He eventually responded to me to say he just had a lot going on at the moment, sorry. He then hasn’t been in touch and didn’t respond to a further message I sent asking how he was. I’m devastated and feel like I’ve done something awful when he was grieving. I’m assuming things are now over but after a year together I’m so upset that things have been left like this and i really just want to be there for him. I’ve given him space for now but is there anything else I can do?
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I don’t think you have done anything wrong. All I can suggest is being patient. It will be very hard, but now just wait. Maybe send a “Hello, how are you?/Missing you” once a week but expect nothing back. Eventually you’ll find out your position. Don’t push for an answer. Just let it evolve.
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