I’m trying to write a eulogy for my rock of 40 years who is being buried on Monday but I can’t concentrate or see through the tears to do her justice
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It’s so very hard but you’ll find the words, sending love & strength 
I found a dear friend to read over what I had written and she edited it and made helpful suggestions.
I decided not to do my wife a eulogy, I sang her favourite song instead. people already knew how i felt about her.
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Let it come from your heart, what did she mean to you, start with her early life, achievements, friends, how you met etc, anything extraordinary. Once you start it will write itself
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Dm58 omg I was married 40 years ..in fact I wasn’t..it was 38 but this year was our 40th .kev passed 2023.. it will be so hard for u but be brave and it should all just flow..I choose the music pictures etc but dont think I could have read ..we had very special friends that did it for us..good luck my sweet 
When I wrote my husband’s eulogy, I just started from the beginnjng of his life and typed out what I could remember. I gave it to my son to use as a foundation. He used it and changed bits of it to add in his own experiences. He was reading it so that worked well.
I wrote my main memories condensed into a poem I read out. I had several attempts at it. Yes i found it was hard to concentrate. Looked at phptos which helped. It is best just to start and do a little bit at a time.
For my Mum’s funeral recently, I wrote a relatively brief traditional eulogy but found it difficult to capture all the important things I wanted to say about her in a chronology of her life. I had the celebrant read out the eulogy and for myself to read, I wrote “10 things about Mum that will stay with us forever” - it was a mixture of things she loved doing, elements of her character/personality, and memories.
1. “She loved XYZ” - then went on to elaborate with some examples or a little story about it. Hobbies, food, music, books, literally anything you want to share with the audience.
it might not be everyone’s preferred approach but it helped me to feel like I was doing her justice in capturing who she was as a person, not just what had happened in her life.
Sunset 2023 my husband passed 2023 we had been married 38 years would have been our 40th ruby wedding anniversary on 24 December, never in my wildest dreams did I think I would be with out him by my side, 