Everyday is hard work trying to cope

Coping with bereavement
#1

I try to keep myself busy but when I am alone it hits me and I can’t function. I cook food then can’t eat it some days I can’t get out of bed every day is hard work. When there is no support when you live on your own coming home is a very lonely place. Kate

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#2

@kate88 Sorry about your loss ,I am in in the same sort of position,my mum passed away on Monday and we lived together, and she was my rock.Being at home on my own is so lonely and I am not coping well.I hope given time we both find a way to cope x

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#3

So sorry about your mum, I lost my mum last month I was also her carer. I completely understand what you are going through when I am alone I cry and most days I am in bed by 7.30 pm I just feel lost without her. I hope we can both get through this take care Kate xxx

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#4

I’ll send you message,it helps to talk xx

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#5

@kate88

I am sorry for your loss and unfortunately I am in same boat.
My mum and I shared a house and now it’s just me in a house with her cat.
I go to work and come home to an empty house and you are better than me in that I don’t even cook now as no point I feel.

Do you have any friends/family near you that can give you some support?
Are you able to pursue any hobbies/interests even just for 5-10mins?

Take care,

Suzanne x

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#6

I am so sorry for your heartbreak. I lost
Mum, MY best friend, my world too. Nothing anyone says will ease your pain. I just wanna send big hugs. As its the worst thing ever to happen to you
Xxxc

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#7

I live on my own too Kate. My brothers have family, so they have people. I don’t.
Drank my self stupid for a bit. Now trying to sort myself ourt But feel no one gets me. Feel hopeless at times.
I appreciate your word & feel your loss too. Xxx

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#8

My heart breaks for you I hope soo xxxx

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#9

Thank you,I too,now live on my own and it’s so lonely

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#10

Thank you for your kinds words and support. My so-called family have not spoken to me since my mums funeral and that was 2 weeks ago had no contact with them. That is why I came to this site because it gives support and we are all dealing with the loss of our loved ones. And have someone to talk to Kate88 take care Suzanne xxx

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#11

Totally understand this, it’s 2 years for me now& I will never stop missing my wonderful husband.
Coming home to an empty house is really hard, nothing has moved from where you left it , the silence is eerie& so very sad.
I don’t know how any of us get through some days but somehow we must.
My heart breaks for you & I wish I could help you.
It’s good to talk & everyone on this site is trying their best to cope & move forward a little at a time, keep talking, it will help a bit.
Best wishes to you.

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#12

I hear what you’re saying. I was with my wife 44yrs, she died week before Christmas and our anniversary was NYD.

I find it difficult to eat, motivate to eat or cook. Our children are wonderful, but in reality I was watching her deterioration over 8yrs of diagnosis …

Now am treading very carefully as someone elsewhere has taken what seems to be a very serious shine to me… I feel that I have lost 44yrs of my life and this lady wants me as I am but also her children too. If things worked out she would leave the states for UK.

I am a gentleman and will deal each day, but have explained to my kids that I know nothing further and am just going with the flow. No plans to remarry, she’s a widow herself.