I don’t know what to do. Mum passed away 14 weeks ago. I feel everything is just too much at the moment. I work in a school. Have been back to since the beginning of November. I was feeling strong and coped well, now I can’t stop the tears. I feel useless and just run down. Is the build up to Christmas, which I’m not looking forward to. I feel like I have gone backwards. I’m not sleeping well and have no motivation to do anything.
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Hi @Tjswyatt
I’m so sorry to hear about your mum and how you’re feeling.
It sounds like you’re looking for support and I’m glad that you’ve been able to share how you’re feeling with us. It is very normal for people who are grieving to feel a bit lost and not know where to start.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted you to know that there is lots of other support out there, and I would really encourage you to reach out and speak to someone about how you are feeling.
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Shout are contactable by text, 24/7. You can text REMEDY to 85258 and talk to them about anything.
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Sue Ryder offers an online bereavement counselling service. This is a free service and sessions are held via video chat so you can attend from home. There’s more information about this service here: sueryder.org/counselling. Please note, there is a waitlist at the moment but a member of the team will be in touch as soon as possible.
You can also make an appointment with your GP and ask to be referred to counselling or other support services in your area.
You mentioned that you are not looking forward to Christmas, so you may find our article on coping with grief at Christmas helpful to read: Coping with grief at Christmas | Sue Ryder
Please do take a look at these support services and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Kate
Sue Ryder Online Community team
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Im amazed you are able to work, I would say you are doing well but I know how confusing it is to hear that, what is well?
Christmas is a challenge, I lost my son and dread Christmas, having worked in a school I know the big build up to Christmas, everyone so excited and happy. I dont work now so can hide away from Christmas, it must be tough for you
All any of us can do is head down and keep going. Im sure your mum would want you to be ok
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Hi @Tjswyatt
I remember that feeling, especially in the run up to Christmas. Don’t forget to take time out for yourself, sometimes after a bereavement, especially one so recent, we need to take time to process everything that has happened, this is your grief journey so you do what works for you. If you’re feeling overloaded, maybe see what extra support is available in your area, & you can talk on this forum as much or as little as is comfortable, we’re all at some stage in our own grief journey so you’re not alone. Sending hugs of support.
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