Hi there,
I dated my ex boyfriend for about a year and we broke up three months ago because his grief for his dad was becoming too much. He was the one to end it, and he broke up with me because he said he hates his life and I do not deserve to be with him if he is unhappy with life and needs to focus on his healing. 3 months later, we are no contact but I found out he has blocked me on all socials.
What’s the reason for this? Does he hate my guts? We were so in love before his dad died, and now I feel like he hates me because I wanted a normal relationship with him
Hi I’m sorry to hear this it sounds really hard for you. I don’t know honestly but it sounds like he’s struggling with the bereavement and it doesn’t seem like there’s anything you can do at this point. I think you’ll have to find a way to accept it, grieve your loss. You can’t force him to want to be in contact with you. I really doubt he hates you. People deal with grief in different ways and he may eventually come to regret letting you go, but it sounds like he’s made his choice and it’s what he needs right now, no matter how unfathomable it seems. I hope you have some support to help you get through this 
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Thanks for your message.
We ended the relationship amicably so he could focus on his healing and it was such as positive ending so I don’t understand why he has blocked me when I’ve done absolutely nothing wrong to him. It hurts to much because I was there for him and supported him and now he’s treating me like the villain and as if I don’t exist.
All I wish is he’s doing okay, but I feel like the blocking is a step too far
It does sound harsh however it doesn’t mean he thinks you’re a villain. And you know that you are not, who knows what he’s thinking.
Hello hellogoodbye1,
perhaps he blames himself because he spent so much time with you instead spending time with his father. The first few months will be difficult for him. He might not even know what he is doing at the moment. His head is full of “what ifs” right now. Just give him some space and time, I think there is nothing you can do right now. Should you bump into him, just talk about the weather and let him start the conversation.
I did hide for several month after my brother died. It is two years and 6 month now and I still have some problems. It is getting slowly better but I still have a log way to go.
Just be patient. (It can take several month before he notices what he is doing.)
Nick
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