Today I got Katie up and ready for the day centre and made her packed lunch. Then I drove 10 miles to the bank to sort out my husband’s ISA and picked up a few bits from a supermarket.
Driving and finances are still a bit out of my comfort zone.
I put some washing away and had lunch.
I was absolutely exhausted.
I used to keep going all day, cleaning, gardening, walking.
I think I do about a third of what I used to do.
Does anyone else feel like this?
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I did for the first 6mths, I think it is mentally as well as physically tiring have no help with things. It all takes time to adjust to our “new roles” and my sleep pattern was all over the place for a long time so doesn’t help when you wake up shattered before you even start the day
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Constantly .
I thinks it’s mental exhaustion which gets us. The constant fight, flight or freeze I find myself negotiating just to get through the day and all it might bring.
I don’t sleep brilliantly anymore either which is a real pain
Just do what you can and siesta if needed.
Give yourself a break when you need xx
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yes, mentally so overwhelmed - physically not too bad!
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I also feel like this. Permanently exhausted and I feel 10 years older than I did 7 months ago. I still look the same though, I’m always surprised when I look in the mirror! I did start exercising again 2 months ago and I feel I’m getting a bit stronger now. I’m more concerned about my shirt-term memory loss, I used to have an elephant’s memory but not any more.
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I think I look 10 years older than I did 13 weeks ago. I have dropped two dress sizes. My memory is shot. I wander around in a daze.
I passed my driving test when I was 17, yet I drive like a learner, gripping the steering wheel and concentrating on road signs.
My son says I am befuddled. I don’t feel like ‘me’ anymore. Xx
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I am exhausted all the time although it is getting a bit easier at 5 months in.
I’m slowly doing more but nothing compared to what my ‘normal’ used to be. I have more aches and pains now that I’m exercising a bit more ( used to do a lot more before hubby passed) and have lost a lot of strength and cannot for the life of me put on any weight that I have lost.
I find my concentration is the worst, I could spend all day just in my head thinking, and struggle to read which I really miss as used to be an avid reader.
I hope in time it will start to get better and easier. I do sleep ok for the most part but the morning s for me are so hard. I still wake with that pit in my stomach and takes so much energy just to get out of bed. If it weren’t for seeing my daughter off to school and having to take the dog out I think I’d just lie there all day. Which used to be something I would never do.
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I totally understand. Describes me xx
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Some days i’m exhausted, dont do much. Other days I cant stop - its like if i stop then i have to face up to the fact that he has really gone.
Wish I could sleep properly though. Fall alseep watching tv, then go to bed and ‘ping’ brain is wide awake. Going over what I’ve done today, and what I’m doing tomorrow. Wish I could turn it off!
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Yes at least understand on here.
Others seem to trot out opposite response.
Can’t see why I am like this.
I feel like a snail sometimes. Go on auto pilot when grand children arrive.
They are a comfort. Often then I find I do get impatient. I got accused by nine year old of being mean when he was naughty but logic tells me boundaries are important.
The cat needs looking after and her having no food makes me drag myself to sort it. Same with plants needing a drink.
My sons’ needs get pressing. Needing each other. I remember when my mother was widowed 30 years ago and being split in two having huge demands to care for her and my own kids and a job
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