I lost my mother in November 2025. It was very unexpected as she had just had a cold, went to the hospital, and then we were called letting us know that she chose to get off of her BiPAP machine. My sister and I spent the last two days of my mother‘s life by her side. It was the saddest time of my life. I never thought at 29 years old I would watch my mom die. For context, I’ve lived with my mother for my entire life and we were very close. We would eat dinner together every night and watch true crime documentaries. I would call her all the time when something came up in my life. She was even saving money for my wedding even though she didn’t have much. Now in March 2026, I struggle to get out of bed every day. I am so exhausted by my grief, and I feel so alone even with my partner and friends around me. It is such a debilitating feeling.
Hi @Cbulikowski,
Thank you for bravely reaching out. I’m so sorry to hear about your mother. You are not alone. I’m not sure if you’ve seen our Losing a parent category. But there you can connect with other members who are living with grief after losing a parent.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support to you. In the meantime, you might find these Sue Ryder resources helpful to read.
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Our Losing a parent page talks through some of the emotions you may be experiencing
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through
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I also wanted to share our support page on the physical symptoms of grief with you - perhaps it may comfort you a little bit to know that these feelings of panic are normal, and you are not alone.
I hope you find the community to be a support to you.
Take good care and keep reaching out 
Alex
I lost my dad in November too, & while he had been treated for illnesses for a few months it still felt very sudden. I understand the exhaustion, I’m usually busy person, full time job, mum, like to exercise, socialise… but right now I don’t have the energy to do any of it. I meet with friends but don’t really want to be there, push myself to go to the gym as I go with my daughter, but have no enthusiasm at all. I have found this site helpful as you can chat to someone in the same position as you, the same timeline, it feels like there is someone who understands. Fell free to chat anytime xx
Hello, I also lost my dad last year. We were always so close as a family and like you say about about the time you spent together eating dinner, watching documentaries, etc it is so difficult to adapt to a new way of living without them. I think once their funeral is over everyone just thinks that we are then ok too, however, we aren’t. Whilst I feel I have been sad for so long, it also doesn’t feel long ago that he left us. Everything still feels so raw and hard to accept. It is good to talk about it xx
I had a lot of exhaustion but it was not immediate. It happened about 2 months after my mum died. I was told that the emotional turmoil of grief is exhausting. My exhaustion has now improved. I had a blood test due to the exhaustion and am now on iron tablets. My GP put it down to the tough year I had. It is worth speaking to your GP if the exhaustion continues. Be kind to yourself and try not to push yourself to do too much.