Father in law passed

Hi all,it is my first time on here,i recently lost my father in law , he passed 2 months ago now, i found him and tried cpr to bring him back,called 999 but unfortunately not able to bring him back,it was sudden and unexpected,i feel very guilty that i could not help,i feel bad for my husband it was his dad, his mum passed in 2006 and now his dad,im not sure how to support him as he does not want to be here as he is the only one left as both parents gone and no other family on his side,i cant stop thinking about whats happened and how it happened,im not sleeping very well,occassional dreams ,overwhelming feelings of pain and loss,i have reached out to councilling but say its too soon so just wait now. We do talk about him and remember the good times,i cry when i need to and comfort my husband when he needs it. Feel lost and trying to move forward.

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Hello @MMab ,

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling overwhelmed. I’m so sorry to hear about your father in law. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that might be helpful.

You may also find this guide useful to help support your husband. supporting someone else who has been bereaved.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,