Ive only just joined and this is the first time ive really spoken about this nevermind posted.
My father passed away last August. I was 7 months pregnant with a high risk pregnancy.
What followed was what i can only describe as the complete annihalation of my family.
My mother changed her personality completely, became incredibly cruel and selfish, said some unforgiveable things and eventually contributed to multople hospital stays and the eventual premature delivery of my baby. (Who is now thankfully healthy and thriving)
I understand she was also grieving. But not only did she hinder mine, she actively added to it. I cant even begin to describe some of the truly vile things she said and did in that time.
My grief is wrapped up in so much resentment and pain. Im angry at my mum. Im lost without my dad. I miss the person my mum used to be and feel completely abandoned.
I cant get over it. I cant seem to move on at all. Instead im in this vicious cycle of lashing out and anger.
Does anyone have any similar experiences
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Hello @Jade31,
I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling about your family. I’m so sorry to hear about your father. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.
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Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
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Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
You might also want to read Losing a parent - coping with the death of a parent | Sue Ryder and also read about complicated grief Sue Ryder Grief Guide
I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Alex
Hi @Jade31, I’m so sorry for your loss and how things are going for you.
I get really angry too from times to times, and some days I feel like I’m stuck in a vicious circle. Getting some time alone can be challenging with a little one, but I found that getting outdoor and looking at nature helps to calm the nerves, reading is also another way that works for me.
Getting outside can be a nice moment to share with your little one or just for you, as well as reading a bedtime story to them or getting yourself into a novel.
Breathe in, breathe out. It’s not always easy.
Wishing you the best of luck in finding a habit that can bring you some peace. Take care