Fear of dying following death of my dad

Losing a parent
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I lost my dad on the 10th of November to an aortic aneurysm. He’d been fine in the day, he had been to the betting shop walked the dog. I received a phone call from my mum, Saturday night to say my brother had taken my dad to the hospital. I lost my dad at 3 in the morning, they took us in when they were resuscitating him. Since then I’ve developed anxiety and a fear of dying, I become scared at night. I manage to distract myself in the day, but night time I can’t :frowning:

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Hello Erin2

I’m part of the Online Community team and I can see that you are new to the community - I’d like to thank you for bravely starting this thread and sharing how you are feeling. I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. It’s understandable that his sudden death would bring up your own worries and fears, alongside the grief. Most community members have sadly experienced the death of a loved one and so will understand some of what you are going through.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support. In the meantime, you may wish to look at these Sue Ryder resources which might be helpful.

  • Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief

  • Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.

You might also want to reach out to your local GP for support with how you are feeling, the anxiety and the fear sound really hard and you might want to look at what other support available to help you ease those feelings.

I really hope you find the community helpful and a good source of support and I also hope you feel you can access more support should you need it.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care, Naoise

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Thank you for sharing this with me. I will look through the links.

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everyone is afraid of dying and when someone close dies it brings it home a bit more. its natural. in the 21st century why death is still such a taboo subject i dont know. we should be more open about it.

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I understand it’s a natural process of life. But the underlying questions of where do we go. Is my dad there, will I see him again. Fear of the unknown, I’ve never really questioned or faced it before. Now I’ve become fixated on the fear and the sadness.

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thats down to what you believe. i dont believe anyof that, logically its impossible for there to be a place like that knowing how many people have died since man appeared on the earth. i believe in the spirit world but thats it