Feel lost after loosing my 12 hour old baby girl

Will I ever get over loosing my baby?

Hi Sarah,

I’m so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby girl. People say that you don’t really ‘get over’ a loss like that, but that your life can grow around your grief, so that it is no longer so all-consuming.

It is important to be able to talk about how you are feeling, whether that’s with people around you, or by writing things down here on the site. We have other users who have posted recently about losing a baby - you may be interested to read and maybe reply to these posts:

Strugglingdad: https://support.sueryder.org/community/losing-child/nearly-one-year-sons-death
Lostsoul1981: https://support.sueryder.org/community/losing-child/i-lost-my-baby-boy

Another really good place to get support is from Sands (Stillbirth and neonatal death support): https://www.sands.org.uk/. They have a helpline (0808 164 3332), an online forum, local support groups and a bereavement support app.

Oh Sarah, my heart goes out to you, what a dreadful thing for you to deal with. It will take time but that awful pain will ease, it won’t go completely ever but you won’t want it to. That baby was part of your body and when it arrived the love you had is what will always remain. I do hope you have a baby box, so you can look back with love and know that somewhere that little thing is looking down and loving you. It will take time for you to start feeling a little better and don’t let anyone try to say you must do this or that and by now you should be over it because it’s you not them and each person is different. You take as long as you need, life is not easy and when something like this happens it’s hell. You must take care of yourself, you are the one who carried that little bungle and now are grieving so look after yourself.
Blessings and I know you will be a stronger person and mother in the future. S

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