Good evening, please someone tell me if I’m being wrong or selfish!
My husband has been gone alittle over 7 months now. I have two children, my husbands family have contacted me only a handful of times since we lost him. I constantly see them off doing stuff on social media. As if he never existed, makes my so angry that they seem to be moving on and me and my two children are stuck in this world of grief.
My father in-law haven’t seen or heard from him since Christmas just feel so alone now and like we don’t matter anymore
Please tell me if I’m being unreasonable 
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Hello @louxox,
I’m so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for sharing this with us. I’m just giving your thread a gentle, “bump” for you - hopefully someone will have some thoughts to share.
Take good care,
Alex
Hi i can hear you, i dont think anything we are feeling in the horrendous time of grief is wrong or selfish, our feelings are how we feel.
I am sorry to hear you are feeling alone and like you dont matter, i am only 4 weeks in and already seeing distance from my husbands side of family, from daily messages to not hearing anything, i wonder if talking to me is painful for them, also his son and family came up for celebration of life last week (we didnt have funeral) and usuallt they always stay over at our house but this time they never even came to our house. I am thinking it is because is painful for them as we all get along great, it does hurt but i am trying to see from another angle. I know it hurts but i hope you will be ok x
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Thank you so much for replying to me, and I’m so very sorry for your loss.
I started to think that way, but to not even a text or a phone call are we ok?
It scares me we will eventually be a distant memory. They promised my husband that they would always be there and look after us.
It just breaks my heart for my children they have lost their dad and seems their family too
It’s all so very unfair that good people are taken away
I can understand how it breaks your heart for your children, and for you too, i do hope they get in touch soon with you x
Hi @louxox ,
I know what you mean, especially in early grief, watching everyone else continuing with there lives, as if nothing has happened can be a bitter pill to swallow. It’s not selfish of you, you are entitled to your feelings, & at this totally heartbreaking time, it’s not wrong to want support, to want family & friends to keep in touch, sadly in many cases, people don’t always stay in touch. But your focus is you, & your children, look after yourself, put you first, & do what works for you, grief is hard enough without stressing over people, who don’t even have the consideration to make time to at least talk to you, I mean, in this day & age, how hard is it really to at least text, “Hi, how are you?”, but at the same time I guess friends & family are grieving to, & so need to process things in their own way to.
Do what works for you, some people make scrapbooks & things of their loved ones, or a memory box, or keeping a diary, in grief, emotions tend to come in waves, & sometimes it can be helpful to process those feelings in your own way. Sending hugs of support.
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Hi, it’s hard, i have not seen family or friends,since Sue’s funeral. Which for some reason i worked out is 140 days ago. I am lucky to get a phone call once a week.
I go to a bereavement coffee morning ,every two or three weeks.
I sometimes look at Sue’s Facebook and see people are living there lives. Which is as it should be ,but sometimes it hurts when they have promised one thing. I can’t understand his parents not wanting to see the grandchildren. I have no children, but my sister loves her grandchildren. So please look after yourself and your children.
xx