When does it stop hurting so much thought i turned a corner but feels like im going backwards. My life just feels so empty
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I felt the same. I felt I’d turned a small corner and I woke up this morning and have been sobbing ever since x
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Good morning Clare,
Perhaps you feel this way most mornings, I know I do.
As well as I manage through the day, there is always that sinking feeling when you wake up without them and you have to make it through another day alone.
I don’t know if it will ever stop hurting, but we just have to get through our days as best we can, difficult though that may be.
Today I’ll go for a walk by the sea, that always makes me feel better somehow.
I hope you get through the day ok Clare.
Look after yourself, there are many others who feel your pain and understand how you’re feeling
Janey xx
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Hiya Clair
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Hiya Claire I no how you feel 16 month for me when I think I’m okay I’m back to the beginning lv annie x x
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Hello Clare
I lost my husband of over 40 years in June 2021, 42 weeks ago now. Like you my life feels empty and the future, such a dark and barren land.
I still feel as if this can’t really be happening to me and that perhaps this nightmare will end one day.
I’ve tried to stay positive but so many things just keep knocking me back- Family not visiting, friends not caring and seeing nobody for days on end. I must be an awful person to be in a situation like this.
It is such a lonely and sad life …,
I’m sorry that these aren’t words of comfort for you Clare but I do hope you can start moving forward again.
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Hiya Clare we feel on our own I have 2 wonderful children but they work so most of time on my own long hard days lv annie x
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Hi Clare I was very sorry to read your post. I lost my darling wife and soul mate Sue when she was far too young to be taken from this world just over 2 years ago, and still cry every day and cant believe she isnt here with me, except in my heart and mind.
So please go easy on yourself and cry when you need to cry and also take good care of yourself.
We are all different with our grief so I cant give advice. For me when I am feeling low I keep going by saying to myself “what would Sue say to me now” and that remembered voice in my head gives me a strength and direction to get through each day even if it’s something as simple as whether I should cut the grass in the garden or Hoover the house or go for a walk on the coast.
I had some counselling with Cruse which helped me to talk as I had nobody else I could talk honestly about my feelings to over the Covid lockdowns. Our friends have also largely melted away as people dont want to talk or face emotions but some true friends have remained in touch and give me hope
Thinking of you, take care x
Anthony
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Hi Anthony
It will be 2 years in June since jilost him , I like you ask myself what would he want me to do, I know he cannot answer me but i talk to him daily .
I go for walks as I find this clears my head , it’s the silence of the silence of the house in the evening that gets to me , no one to talk to , yes friends have their own lives . My family have been amazing, I’m surrounded by them but still feel so alone
Yes I had some counselling too , it really helped to talk to someone who didn’t know me or karl . X
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Hi Annie
Yes i feel the same when will this nitemare end , yes this is very lonely and j hate being alone xx
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Hi Nel
I just feel like I’m in this bubble and I just want to break free of it xx
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Hiya Claire it’s the loneliness that get to us long days when your on your own had my friend came this morning she’s there for me always I have wonderful children but they work so see them once a week take care lv annie x x
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Hi claire
I think we all feel a bit like this. It’s an awful feeling when it hits you again just when you think you are getting somewhere. I agree with other people’s comments about the loneliness being the worst. My family and most of my friends are still working so I spend a lot of time on my own.
I’m waiting to get some counselling and it’s good to read that people have found that helpful.
Xx
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Hi Nel
I think we’ve spoken before. I just feel as if I’m in a parallel universe where something is not quite right. It’s been 42 weeks now and if anything, the loneliness is just getting worse. I didn’t even get up yesterday, something which I’ve only done once before.
I just feel so tired with having to make the effort to keep going…. Housework, gardening, shopping just doesn’t happen anymore……
Take care
X Julie
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im the same , i have never felt so alone in my life since he passed we done everything together and ow hes gone im lost .
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Hi Trixie.
It is nearly 4 years since Ron died and it seems like yesterday. I am so exhausted all day no matter what I do and the motivation in me has hit zero. I can sleep until 2pm sometimes and just don’t want to get up. I must admit I feel better when I do. I used to be a Manager. I was on top of everything and a perfectionist. Now I feel the life has drained out of me. I can laugh but without joy. I can do housework without any feeling of accomplishment. Nothing image’s me feel actual happiness anymore. O just want things to slot into place again but they never do. What used to take me a few minutes now takes a few hours.
Some days are better than others but none of them are fulfilling. I loved holidays abroad but now I don’t want a holiday at all. It is a long hard journey and I never get where I want to go.
Sorry for typos. I can’t even be bothered to correct them now.