Hello everyone, first post here and want to share my condolences since we’re all here because we’ve all lost someone. It’s been helpful feeling a little less alone reading through these posts, but I am sitting here on my own and just wanted to reach out/share/vent.
I lost my beautiful mum 3 weeks ago. She’d been ill for a long time so it wasn’t totally a surprise, but it was a shock how suddenly she went downhill at the end. I spent a week at the hospital by her side while she was mostly unconscious. I had to agree to the decision to switch off her support at the end, as she had no chance of recovery and being on a ventilator was so uncomfortable for her. I still replay it when I close my eyes. I miss her so much.
2 weeks after the funeral and I feel so isolated. I have no family anywhere nearby, no siblings and not much of a relationship with more distant relatives. I’m in my early 30s and my friends are all going through exciting life events; babies, new homes, getting married, promotions etc. I find myself in the position of having nobody I feel I can call in my dark moments, nobody has phoned me or called to my house and all I’ve had are a few condolences by text. Everyone is so busy they don’t have time or want to be with me in my grief. I feel like everyone else has happy milestones and I’ve got the rubbish one that nobody wants to associate with.
I’d poured so much of my time and energy into being a carer for the last several years that I just feel empty now and like I’ve been left behind. All I want is my mum to give me a hug, but she’s gone.
hello elle, there’s a saying grief can’t be shared. it’s futile to expect even a relative to feel what you’re going through, let alone friends and acquaintances. my mum passed 8 weeks ago now and it’s still raw and painful bouts of emotion everyday. after the shock and denial wears off, the reality of being left behind by mum is bearing its full weight on me. being an only child i feel isolated and alone. friends and relatives lives move on but my world seems to have come to a complete halt. just know that you’re not alone in feeling deeply isolated in grief. my heart goes out to you.
Hello and my sympathies for your loss. I lost my dad a few weeks ago and I don’t have anyone to talk to in the dark moments either, so I know how very dark it can get. It’s a sadness in itself realising that even if you have some friends there’s no one to vent to, because they are busy with their own things. There are many of us here who understand.
Hi huny u are most definately not alone, i feel the same but its part of grief. Our mind one minute wants to be held the next to be strong, i hear u and feel u but im hear anytime u need a chat xxxx
I am so sorry for your loss. Being on your own must be really hard. Everyones elses life around u carries on while we are stuck in this bubble of grieving. Sharing our thoughts of how we are feeling in the group may help a little in the difficult times u r having Sending u hugs and condolences on your loss x
Thats a good description a rollercoaster. My dad passed away in july , i feel some rays are good im happy and know hed want me to be . I dont want to be low and upset my friends or customers. Then i loose it like hes only just gone alover again, do you have a job and hobbies atall? I think we all need self care , time to do something we enjoy its just making time for us xxx
I’m so sorry to hear about your dad, and I hope you’ve been able to find time for some self care too to help you through those low days.
I’ve been sick (some sort of nasty bug) since shortly after the funeral but when I’m feeling better I’m definitely going to try to do more things I enjoy
I think there are so many bugs going round at the moment and we are so low its bound to get us. Maybe time to make a new yrs resolution to take care of ourselves, make ourselves proud. No im a hairdresser no me time at mo but i promise to try later xxxx
