Feel so Raw

I am feeling so raw we just lost my mum 3 days ago it was so unexpected as she hadn’t been unwell, I spoke to her the night before and she seemed fine as we had planned to go away for the wknd the following week. She passed away in her sleep i sometimes feel comforted thaht she didnt suffer and shes now with her brothers and sisters as she was the last remaining one of her family and she was feeling sad about it of late, and other times guilty as she lived alone and was on her own and i wonder if i could have done more for her , i keep hoping I’ll wake up and its been a bad dream just want to talk to her and hug her one more time but unfortunately not and i just dont know how to navigate this without her .


Hello @Karenm31,

I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here. Your loss is so very recent and unexpected, it’s completely understandable that you’re feeling so raw.

I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but you’ve said you don’t know how to navigate this, so I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.

Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.

Take care,


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Just want to say I am thinking of you.
Everyone feels guilty about this that or the other after a loved one passes I know I di and its torture beating myself about all sorts of things which were out of my control but I still feel I could have done more
You come first now so look after your own wellbeing and take small steps each day to help you get through each day


So sorry to hear your loss. I lost my mum in May. The past few weeks have begun to get a bit better, but you will find it extremely tough. Sorry! You’ll go through every emotion. What I suppose is a blessing is that with her passing in her sleep, she would be out of pain, and what a lovely (if I can say that!) way to go. She will be with her departed family and no more suffering. Don’t feel guilty that you could have done more for her. It’s definitely not your fault. Her time had come; and peacefully in her sleep. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. We are all going through a similar journey. Big hugs. You will get there one day at a time. xxx

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Thank you for your kind words, i’m sorry for your loss also.

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Thank you for your kind words.

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