I’ve not been on here for a while. Trying to cope with the massive loss of my husband in November. I have some decent days but followed by very down days. Today is one of them. It just took a song from a programme i was watching. To be honest I’m struggling more than people realise. I feel so lost and lonely its unbearable at times
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I’m so sorry you feel so bad.
I’m afraid I feel pretty much the same, as do most of the people who post on here.
I’m fairly new to this, 10 weeks but it feels like forever, and so far I’ve had very few good days, and as time goes on I just seem to feel worse
The trouble is people don’t really want to know we’re struggling, they want to think we’re coping. They don’t know how to cope with our grief. We don’t know how to cope with our grief.
There are so many triggers aren’t there, you just can’t avoid them
Sending hugs
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Thank you. I’m so sorry for your loss, it’s so hard forbus all on here. It’s nearly 6 months now and I think people think I am coping. I miss his so much, we were never apart. It’s strange, I want to be alone, i dont want to be alone. I want to do my housework but can’t be bothered and quite often just sit on my phone and realise hours have just vanished. I do get out but it’s the downwards spiral when i get home again. Unbearable. Take care of yourself and be honest with people, tell them how you are really feeling. They can’t take away the pain but they can listen xx
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I know exactly how you feel. The lonliness is unbearable - I am going through it too. As it has been nearly 9 months living alone people must think that I must now be used to living alone - how wrong they are! I decided I should do some gardening this morning which used to be my hobby. I broke down in the garden as I no longer enjoy it. I have not been well - Shingles which is brought on by stress and it has left me very weak. My partner did not like gardening but he was always there if I needed help. It all seems so pointless now. LIke you I have reasonable days and then for no reason out of the blue I feel terribly depressed - like today. Only people who have experienced grief have any understanding of what it is like. My partner passed away very suddenly so I had no preparation and had to learn very quickely living alone and I have no family and just a very few friends so life now is very lonely.
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Hello everyone I too know exactly how you all feel it was a year last Wednesday May1st I lost my husband and yes a year on the loneliness is unbearable I have just spent 5 days at my sons and for the first time in a year I didn’t cry for two days couldn’t believe it it was a lovely feeling but still had all the other symptoms of missing him, today I came home and cried my eyes out sat outside in the sun, my husband and I used to sit outside all the time while I pottered about the garden but one thing I know I’ll treasure those two days felt good to be normal even for a short while
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