When my Mum was admitted to hospital she said to me the Doctors had said she was going to die & she didn’t want to die. Then three weeks later she died still in hospital. How do I stop feeling so guilty that I let her die?
Hello @Tjswyatt,
I can see that you’re new to the community, so I wanted to say that I am so sorry for the loss of your mum that brings you here.
I’m sure someone will be along to offer their support, but I wanted to share a few Sue Ryder resources with you that may help right now.
- Our Grief Guide self-help platform which has information, resources and advice to help you through your grief
- Our Grief Coach text service, which sends you personalised text support via SMS
- Our free Online Bereavement Counselling which is held via video chat
- Our Bereavement Information pages which can walk you through what you are going through.
Thank you again for sharing – please keep reaching out and know that you are not alone.
Take care,
Seaneen
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Oh my goodness you didnt let her die, she was in the only place that could help you can do no more than that we are not omnipotent and neither are the doctors, I am sorry for your loss.
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I know this deep down. I’m just feeling vulnerable today.
Oh love. I felt the same. My husband didnt want to die. I pushed and pushed the doctors not to give up and he still didnt make it. He died in hospital next to me. I am full of guilt. Could i have done more. Could i have acted differently. Could i have taken him in sooner. Did i miss any signs.
In the end it serves no purpose and you know this as well but we beat ourselves up as we love…so we care. You cared for her think of all the times you did. Its not you. Its a rubbish outcome that we cannot control. Be kind to yourself. Much love
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