Just over 8 weeks since Jacqui passed, had an Ok day yesterday, couple of visits from friends, then today feeling guilty for having the Ok day. Is this normal ? The leaping from one emotion to another is so tiring, I am supposed to be doing some work, but finding it hard to concentrate.
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Stapes - yes, it is normal. I had a good day too last week for the first time since my husband died, at the 8 week,5 day mark.
It is very okay to have a good day. It doesn’t mean you love your partner less. There is no rule that says good days are not permitted. Please, do not waste your emotion on guilt for still being alive.
I truly believe our loved one wants us to stop mourning and get on with living. If only it were that easy.
Much love.
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Initially, I had survivors guilt. I’m here and he’s not. Then, my emotions ran the gamut, every emotion you can imagine. Still have it, but not as extreme. Grief is so tiring, the little energy I have is to keep myself and the house going.
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I’m on my 11th week without my husband and seem to go from day to day with a different emotion. I’m sure & hoping that learning to live with different feelings will come.
Sometimes we forget that we need to really try to be kind to ourselves.
Yes it’s very normal although we all deal with loss differently. Initially I felt guilty laughing at something on TV because I thought that meant I wasn’t thinking about my wife. That was silly I know as she would not want me to be acting like this. I still do it now sometimes after nearly 3 years but not as often. I have some good close friends and family we often chat about Jackie which helps. Just do what’s good for you, there’s no right or wrong. Be kind to yourself you know your loved ones would want you to try and be happy…
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