Hi all,
I’m really struggling right now, I feel I have had enough I’m exhausted, physically, emotionally, & financially, I can’t take any more! My life is very unstable, & getting no real support . I’m stuck putting up with dad’s alcoholism, throwing his weight around, deciding everything has to be done his way, he’s even decided about changing things in my room! It’s my personal fING space! I could understand if it was work that needed doing, but it isn’t! HE’S decided that certain things in ALL the rooms HAVE TO match, & for no other reason than because HE SAID SO! I fING live there too, & part own it! & Pay MORE than half off the bills, & all to be treated like shit! I hate it! I’m sick of it! I want out of that house! I’ve spent more than 5 years now, putting up with this shit! I spend time at my boyfriends house each week, partly avoiding my alcoholic dad, & partly so my boyfriend & I can spend time together, but it’s his parents house, so I can’t move in with him. I keep looking for a practical way to move out, but it just doesn’t exist, I can’t afford to buy a place, I don’t qualify for council in any event because I part own my own home, (if you can call it that!) the few places that might give me a mortgage on benefits would only lend me about £20,000 so not enough for anything more than a deposit, can’t work because of my pseudoseizures & chronic fatigue syndrome, looked into private renting, but I don’t have references or a guarantor, & my money on benefits just won’t stretch, I even looked at shared ownership schemes, but it’s just too expensive, basically put, I’m better off buying a garage & living out of that. I’m stuck, with no way out. I want my mom & on top of this, last year dad tried to force me into selling, but I can’t because I have NO OPTIONS! & Because I couldn’t move when HE wanted me to, he’s changed the will, cutting me out, leaving everything to my sister & nephews, my sister has made clear she is ONLY interested in the money! & Her own self-preservation & even enjoys watching my distress! . I am very much alone with this. I managed to get legal advice, & have been informed that basically they can’t force me out without taking me to court, it would cost them thousands just to do that, & a judge could decide either way, he could side with them because they own the majority share, or he could say I don’t have to sell because I’m living there, pay my own bills, look after the place, & have health issues which make me vulnerable, so they would have to wait till I pass before they could sell, though in my mind, that just gives them a motive , & sadly traps me in that house with them making my life (or what’s left of it) a misery. The solicitor also said, if when they inherit, I’m sitting on the money from the house, & they can’t claim it, they could charge me, meaning I would have to pay them, as long as I live there . There’s also the question of if dad at any point gets put into a care home, his portion of the house could be included in his assets, meaning the house would have to sell to pay his care costs, but they may say that because I live there, & have health issues, that the house doesn’t have to be included, & just put like a debt against the house for that amount, so that whenever it does sell, that debt would need to be paid off first. I’m scared, I know I could contest dad’s will whenever he passes, I can even contest him giving my sister power of attorney, considering it was done maliciously to get back at me, but it doesn’t give me a safe way out of that cursed bloody house. I’m stuck, I feel like I just want say bugger the lot of them, I need help!