Hi, my Dad passed away on August 9th from heart failure. He was only diagnosed with it about 8 weeks prior to him going and it all seemed to happen fast. He moved in with me and my family for two weeks before having a week in hospital, which is where his heart stopped.
I went back to work last Monday and thought I was doing fine, but come the Friday, was feeling very emotional and have been again all weekend and today. I feel so angry - we weren’t allowed to visit him in hospital due to covid (understandably) but it is making me feel so much anger to the virus for taking away that last week he was here and that he couldn’t do his usual activities in the last year of his life.
I’m so overwhelmed too. I don’t have a relationship with my mother, so I was super close to my Dad, and I have a brother that lives 4 hours away and another that my Dad had fallen out with, so it’s all down to me to sort out Dad’s house and get it ready to sell (we live nearby) and I’m just feeling like I may sink with the pressure of it all. I’ve a 2 year old so I can’t just ‘stop’ and my fiance has been amazing in helping in planning the funeral, but he’s also got a demanding job.
So I’m just on here to vent and ask if it ever gets easier? I know I’ll have good and bad days but right now I just miss him so much and am hating life without him. On the surface I seem okay as I have to be, but I feel so alone in the sense that there isn’t anyone to be thinking or looking out for me in the way that a parent does. It’s a very odd lonely feeling. I was out running at lunchtime and a bus passed very close to me, and I just burst into tears as I thought (other than my partner and child) there wouldn’t be anyone to inform if I was hurt. Other things like sending pictures of my daughter to him - I can’t do that now and get a response and it’s just making me sad and angry, not with him, but that a heart can just stop.
Not sure if I’m looking for advice here but was happy to find this where people can share their feelings.