I lost my husband on Friday. We would have been together next month for 26 years. He had been ill with cancer for the last 6 years, and there was many occasions that I thought that that was it but he kept fighting and coming back, every time a little bit weaker or sorer but still there and still holding on. I thought I’d mentally prepared myself for when the worst happened I knew it was coming. We have 2 young kids and I made sure that they where protected from the worst of his illness but also understood what was going on, there now what’s keeping me going but I just feel so utterly lost without the person who knew just the right thing to say or do whenever I felt like this.
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I am so sorry and sending you lots of hugs. Our children were young too and they kept me going through the utter devastation and void. I don’t think anyone can be prepared for the reality of loss. In those early days it was a blur of having so much to do and I wish I had understood the importance of taking the time and space for myself because I was in shock and barely functioning out of necessity. Please take care of yourself and slowly you will find the way forward even if at times it doesn’t feel like that. I really hope you and your children have all the support you need.
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Hi @Shezzyg
I’m so sorry you have lost your husband and find yourself here.
You must still be reeling from all the shock and having to care for kids who have lost their dad is so difficult when you are hurting so much.
Just take each hour or day as it comes. Don’t expect too much from yourself and take all offers of help from others.
Do what you need to do - the rest can be done later.
If it helps keep posting and reading here. There are lots of us who can offer some support, kindness and virtual hugs and we truly understand your what you are going through.
Find strength in your kids as you will all need each other just now.
Sending some love and strength xxx
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@Shezzyg So sorry for your loss. My wife had cancer and I knew what was coming. However on the day it was awful even with my 2 daughters who are in their early thirties there. All I can say is take each day at a time. Don’t do things to please others… you have to think of yourself and you try and remember the good times you had like your children etc… I’m only 9 weeks into this devastating loss and still finding it horrendous. I walk around the house talking and thinking to my wife! It helps me. Ask your yourself what what your husband want or do? That helps me! We’re all here for you. Even at the most silly times of the day I find myself online! Take care x
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